What’s So Extraordinary about Wednesday?

I really love those ads where the camel goes around an office on a Wednesday, asking everyone what day it is and waiting for them to say ‘hump day.’

Camel humor.

Many folks think the Wednesday-dread is common only to those in a 9-5 job, but we all fall into this temptation of thinking that once we get over that mid-week hump, it is all downhill from there to the ultimate days of the weekend!

It is easy to face the work week with dread. For me, Sunday evenings would sometimes feel like that bracing moment just before you are ready to dive into very cold water. You tense up, wince, and just jump in. Get that shocking blast in the face over with and endure the challenging week ahead until the next weekend.

Well, I was getting ready to make to post on my Facebook page, rejoicing that the work week was half over, but then I realized I don’t want it to go quickly. I don’t want to be living from one weekend to another, just biding my time until Saturday and Sunday.

If we live that way, we are missing some of the sweetest life moments…mealtime, soccer games, and yes, washing dishes and doing laundry. Granted, those activities in themselves aren’t glamorous or celebrated, but they mean that we are doing life. We have food to eat, we have clothes to wash, we even have leisure time to take our children to sporting activities.

When I ask my kids what some of their greatest memories are, I get as many comments about those day-to-day activities as the vacations or weekend fun. They think back to those mundane moments just as fondly as those exciting ones. Why?

Because it is with the ordinary things that the extraordinary happens. An experience at a theme park only lasts a day or two. But the day-to-day memories with family are deeply anchored and cherished. An experience being a parent is a lifetime of joys. And even the sorrows and difficulties it brings make us get on our knees in prayer. They bring us closer to our God. I can truly say that being a wife, mother, and homeschooler has grown my prayer life. I know how good our Lord is, and how great His love is for me.

And I learned that by walking through the ordinary, not from a day at Disney World.

So don’t spend 5/7 of your life waiting for the weekend. Embrace the daily ordinary stuff and LIVE it!

The One Word Moms Need to Stop Using Around Their Children

We all do it once in a while…without even thinking.

After all, having children and raising them requires so much time, energy, and extra finances. We leave our careers (or adjust them); we create budget after budget; we make schedules so we can get to soccer games, music lessons, and birthday parties.

What a sacrifice.

“But it is worth it.” She says with a sigh.

“Yes, I could have gone on to do greater things and earned hundreds of thousands of dollars. I could have traveled and maybe even bought a new car…but it is worth it.” Dramatic emphasis.

True, having children definitely changes our lifestyle. It requires continuous energy, time, and money. But think about how we are talking about it. Do we often use the term “sacrifice” when we discuss parenting? Are our children hearing us?

What is a sacrifice? The best dictionary definition I could find for this use (NOT the killing-of-animals definition) is this:

  1. To give up (something important or valued) for the sake of other considerations.

Did we give up something valuable in order to have children? Did we stop our education or quit our jobs? Did we relinquish lavish date nights or adult gatherings? Did we swap luxury cars and a large house for a Cheerio-filled minivan and a family home?

Maybe we did. But it was WORTH it! Again add dramatic emphasis. We gave up all that for something better. It was a worthwhile sacrifice.

Wait a minute…

By saying that, aren’t we really implying that we gave up something better? We are missing out on something?

“Well, it is WORTH it.”

Really? Saying that might be like saying, “What I gave up was better, but I gave up the better, more exciting things in order to have this other thing that I really believe is better, but I keep thinking about the things I sacrificed to get it.”

Folks, this idea of sacrifice is not inherently a bad thing. We give up eating that slice of cheesecake so our bodies are a bit healthier. We stop ourselves from buying the newest cell phone so we can repair the broken water heater. Sacrifice isn’t necessarily bad.

But when we use that term when we refer to parenting, we are telling our children (and ourselves) that we gave up something that was REALLY GOOD in order to have these kids. We keep thinking about what “might have been” or what we could do with our time if we didn’t have other responsibilities.

Let me encourage you. Being a parent is one of the BEST things we can do with our lives. It isn’t a second best scenario. It isn’t a situation where we try to still add in those things we feel we have to give up, because we are trying to “have it all.”

Having it all is being a parent. It is raw, hard, and tiring. It is awesome.

And it is my FIRST choice, not a sacrifice where I gave up something so I could do it. Sure I’m not doing other things that I could have done if I didn’t become a parent. But I WANTED to be a parent. It was a career promotion I gave myself, leaving a wonderful career behind in order to move on to something better.

Not giving up something. Not sacrificing something.

In baseball, a sacrifice is when a player will allow himself to get an out in order for another player to advance bases. He takes a hurt so that the team can benefit. In the military, a soldier will sacrifice himself by jumping in the line of a bullet instead of allowing his commander to get shot. He takes a hurt so that his superior and the rest of the unit can benefit.

That is a sacrifice.

By always using this term, we are suggesting that we took a hurt so that our family would benefit.

Poor me.

Really? Is that what I want to communicate to my children?

Our words definitely carry a lot of weight. And I want my children to know that I think being their parent was something I chose. Just like anything we do in life. The work involved to do it is just a part of it. It isn’t a sacrifice, it is a good work!

Our Appreciation of Bending Light and God’s Handiwork

I was recently in the Florida Keys doing some filming for an upcoming project. At the end of each day, we showered, grabbed a bite of food, and high-tailed it out to the shore to watch the sunset. It is just a thing I love to do when I am near the coast.

But I noticed something interesting.

Plain-old bending light or something more?

We weren’t the only ones doing this. Each night, almost all the folks from our hotel would gather down by the dock or beach or balcony in order to watch the harbinger of the end of the day. They brought their beach chairs, iced drinks, and cameras, indicating that this event was planned and anxiously awaited.

I started to think about that. Everyone loves a good sunset. It is beautiful! Red, orange, yellow, and even purple colors the sky as if it has been painted. Cell phones come out, people take silhouette-shots of themselves or they wait for a sailboat to glide by as that big yellow ball meets the water.

Why do we act like that?

Well, first of all, think about what a sunset is. The sun isn’t actually setting in relation to where we are, rather, the Earth is spinning on its axis and is turning away from the sun. As we are viewing it at more of an angle, the light it is emitting begins to bend through a greater part of our atmosphere and reflect off dust particles in the air, off of clouds, and off of the water. That’s why sunsets are often more colorful than sunrises. At the end of the day, there is more dust in the air from wind movement (due to the sun heating up the air at daytime) and even from the activities of animals and people. There’s just more for light to bend and bounce off of.

So when people take time out of their day to walk outside and stare at the sky for a few minutes, think about what they are looking at. Is it simply light bending and bouncing around lots of gases and dust so we can see its different wavelengths?

Animals don’t take the time to watch it. Why do we?

I think that is because we are seeing MORE. We aren’t just looking at the physical parameters of light. Yes, there is some sciencey stuff going on, but we are marveling at its beauty. We have the ability to identify things that are beautiful, going beyond what kinds of light waves enter our eye.

There’s definitely more going on than just light waves… I mean…look at it!

We have the capacity to appreciate it.

Now, whenever I see “something more” than pure science, I have to believe that there is “some ONE more.” There is really no evolutionary advantage to admiring a gorgeous sunset. We are created to enjoy God’s glorious creation as it gives testimony to His greatness.

Many animals in the world aren’t able to see (think worms and snails), and of those that can, many cannot see color. But even IF they can see color, they don’t have the capacity to enjoy and appreciate it.

We have that “something more” because God desires to know us and have relationship with us. So science in itself is not enough. It is a means of helping us to better know our Creator. That’s why I love studying our world so much!

As I was watching the sunset last night and realizing these things, I wanted to start jumping around and telling everyone what I was thinking. WE ARE BEAUTIFULLY MADE TO ENJOY BEAUTIFUL THINGS! They are made as a testimony to God’s glory!

Hopefully, next time you see a sunset and start to gasp at the colors, I hope you will think about why you are in awe.

I admit it… I Can’t Do What You Do

Total confession. I am not an oily mom. Yes, I have heard of essential oils, and I am familiar with their benefits, but I am just not ready to get my brain around one more regimen…one more system. I sometimes feel like I must be the ONLY mom out there who hasn’t gotten into this. After all, everyone posts about it on Facebook, and they show their beautiful diffusers (even necklaces) that help keep their allergies at bay and ward off bad bacteria.

But I am wondering if any of you feel like me? Maybe it isn’t the oil thing. Maybe it’s something else.

So instead of this being an encouraging post by showing you what I DO with my life and things that make me and my family healthy and happy, I am going to bare it all and tell you what I don’t do.

I don’t do the 30-day freezer meal cooking thing. Yes, I have tried doing 3 or 4 meals at a time, but honestly, with the many teens we have at our house, the bags often would get pushed to the back of the freezer and get forgotten. I do double a meal once in a while when I cook it so I can put the second portion in the freezer for later. But I just cannot do a regular freezer thing. I wish I could…

I don’t make delicious, healthful smoothies every day for my family. Yes, I have done it before, and I still will make a smoothie once in a while, but keeping all those fresh fruits and veggies on hand is difficult (it’s the same get-pushed-to-the-back-of-the-shelf problem as in the freezer). So I buy protein powder and make one of those when I can, as I throw in a few frozen strawberries.

Just NOT happenin’

I don’t do regular 6AM workouts. First of all, I am NOT a morning person and find it difficult to speak a coherent sentence before 7 or 7:30, so I am definitely not trusting myself daily to drive to the gym. Yes, I DO run sometimes and I try to get to the gym at least a few times a week, but I just cannot get myself to do it every day before the sunrise. And when the kids were little…it was even more difficult.

I don’t grind my own wheat into flour and bake my own bread. Well, I USED to do that. That was when we had a child who just couldn’t eat meat protein, so one way to add complete proteins into his diet was to mill dried beans and rice into flour and make muffins with it (of course, I added chocolate chips!). I got into baking bread for a while after that, but as our children got older, my teenage boys just inhaled food faster than I could make it, so we went to store-bought bread more often.

I don’t make lovely photo albums with our photos. I USED to do that, too, but not as much as I felt I NEEDED to, so my kids have photo albums that are definitely unfinished. And like most of you, the oldest got the most pictures and captured moments, and the rest… well…they got less. You want to find a picture of your high school soccer game, honey? Well, try to remember what year and season that was…I think it will be filed on my computer with the rest of the pictures we took that year. It’s in there somewhere!

I don’t keep a journal. Unless you consider this blog my journal. I just don’t have time to write about everything I am thinking about and everything I am doing each day. I will let my Instagram history be my “journal.” What was I doing in December last year? One picture shows a pile of laundry and me wondering when the mountain will be gone. Another is of me having lunch with some family members. I guess my “journal” entry that day was: Frustrated with why there is always laundry, but at least I get to eat out today!

I tried…but the weeds always won.

I don’t keep a huge garden every year. Some years, we planted beans, tomatoes, peppers, and the requisite other garden veggies, and we actually got some food to eat before the bugs came and destroyed it all. I just couldn’t keep up with the weeding, pruning, and organic pest control. I had kids to weed, prune, and keep bug-free, and I thought that was more important.

I don’t get regular manicures and pedicures, I don’t get to the dentist twice a year (more like every 10 months or so), I don’t regularly run a vinegar-cleaning cycle on my Kuerig. I don’t save 50% on my grocery bill with coupons, though I do get a deal once in a while.

Well, there’s a lot of other things I don’t do, and they tend to sit on my brain from time to time, making me feel inadequate and unproductive. I look at what everyone else is doing and feel like I must be spending my days sitting on the couch, watching soap operas and eating bonbons, because why don’t I have time to do what everyone else is doing?

You know the answer as well as I do, but we just don’t ever come out and say it. We all don’t do everything. And we shouldn’t expect to. We need to prayerfully consider what is important for us, for our marriages, for our children, and just do THAT. We may do some things religiously and beautifully, but other things we may never get to or when we do get to them, we just dabble a bit.

That’s OK. If you feel the pressure to do it all, then you will never do what is most important for YOU. Allow yourself to say, “That’s great for you, but I don’t think that is ideal for our family right now.” Allow yourself to think, “I am going to focus on the things that are good for me and not get caught up in something someone else is doing.” And then allow yourself to add a few things to your “DON’T” list.

It is a good thing to DO.

One Important Thing You Need to Add to Your Child’s School Schedule (and it’s not what you think!)

As the new school year approaches, homeschool moms are busy poring over lesson plans and curriculum in order to make sure we have all our bases covered. Well, at least in THEORY we are. Some years my lesson plans used the seat-of-your-pants method (that’s a method, isn’t it?).

But I never actually took the time to intentionally make sure we were including DOING NOTHING in our schedule. I DID try to capture down-time when we could so that the kids had opportunity to go outside and play, but I really didn’t consider it a critical part of their development and education.

You see, we feel the pressure to use their time wisely. We don’t want them lazing around when they could be more industrious, like taking Russian lessons, or learning computer code, or any other “very good” activity.

Don’t worry. I am not saying that those are bad things. In fact, they are very good ways to use one’s time. But if you stare at a blank spot on your child’s weekly calendar and feel the need to fill it up with something that will “help them do better on the SAT,” you may actually be preventing them from one of the best things they can be doing.

Nothing.

A recent study completed by Kim John Payne, showed that when he simplified the lives of children with ADD, 68% of them went from clinically dysfunctional to clinically functional within 4 months. Over a third of them increased their academic aptitude, too. These are startling findings.

It is no secret that contemporary society, with its advanced teaching methods and highly technological opportunities, has enriched education even down to kindergarten levels so that students are primed and prepared for college and beyond. Every moment of their day is planned, including their play time so that there is no missed opportunity for an educational boost.

Play Mozart’s concerto while finger-painting a replica of van Gogh’s “Starry Night.” Teach them their colors at age 2…and not red, blue, and green, but crimson, turquoise, and celadon. Read “A Tale of Two Cities” out loud while they are in the womb.

You get the idea. We make sure everything has an academic element. There should be no WASTED time. And that thinking spills over into our lesson plans.

But Payne discovered that with too much going on, children actually build up stress, and when stress is added to normal personality traits in children, it can push those traits into the realm of disorder. So a child who may be inherently organized, liking to line up their toys in rows and place things into and out of baskets may start to develop obsessive behaviors. Dreamy children can lose the ability to focus. Normal behaviors, when combined with the stress of always having to do something productive, can quickly grow out of control when they are placed under the burden of doing too much.

Children today are being constantly bombarded with a flood of information that they are unable to process. We are forcing them to grow up too quickly by placing high expectations on them well before they have the mental ability to deal with those expectations. Sure, they may be able to recite the periodic table or they might be able to read at 1 ½, but are they ready to process what they are taking in? If that is all we are throwing at them, are we giving them too much educational material in their arsenal without the practical skills to wield it?

Of course, we want our children to do well. We want them to have the best possible start in life. But too much designated play and not enough down-time can be dangerous. If we want them to develop well, believe it or not, we need to give them less. Less toys, less structure, less designated time. They need time to become lost in their imaginations. With fewer toys, they can imagine that their car becomes a boat and it sails on the ocean in order to fight sea monsters. They can take those empty paper towel rolls and convert them to musical horns, periscopes, or whatever their minds are dreaming up.

In our great desire to enrich our children, we are removing their creativity. It is suggested that providing as little as two hours a week of unstructured play time will significantly enhance a child’s creativity. Are we as a society not even giving our children two hours to themselves??

So when we feel the need to add extra soccer practices to their schedules or add in three playdates and a field trip to their week, perhaps it is a good idea to step back and think about saying “No” a little more so that you relieve some of the tension on them (and on YOU!).

Maybe it’s time to weed through their toys and eliminate some.

You see, young brains are not able to process the things that adult brains can. Childhood has a purpose. It is a time for a little one’s brain to take in information bit-by-bit and chew on it for a while, turning it over and over in his or her mind until it is fully grasped. By providing our children the time to do that, we are giving them the opportunity to build the skills they truly need so that when they are grown, they can truly thrive.

Six Ways Children Defy the Laws of Science

If you’re a parent, you already know that having children changes things. Lots of things.

But you may not realize exactly how unique these little people are. Last week, I was in line at the grocery store deli counter, standing behind a young mom who was holding her toddler. The little guy had rested his head on her shoulder and was pretty still, despite trying to smile at me. I started to check a text on my phone when the mom turned around and asked me if her son had fallen asleep.

I looked up to check, and, yes, he was out! I asked her how she knew, and she smiled and said he just felt heavier.

She was right. I had felt that ‘sudden heaviness mode’ while carrying a child before. And that got me thinking. How can a child have “more mass” just by falling asleep? The mass of objects just doesn’t change all by itself. And there were other universal questions that I started thinking about, too. So here are 6 ways that children defy the laws of science.

1. Children gain mass when they fall asleep. Just like my example above, a napping child is “dead weight,” so they are much harder to carry. Do they actually pull in extra atoms and molecules onto their bodies when sleeping? Some people say that their muscles are not flexed and we feel the full extent of their weight. I don’t think so. You see, a side phenomenon of this one is when you try to pick up a child who doesn’t want to be carried. Again, their mass mysteriously increases, and they become very difficult to lift. So there is more to this phenomenon than the non-flexed-muscles argument. It’s a mystery.

2. Children can alter the amplitude of sound. Amplitude of sound waves has to do with how loud we perceive a noise. In most cases, I have found my children to have a normal range of perception when it comes to regular noises. But when I call their name (particularly when they haven’t completed an assigned task), they inexplicably are able to change the volume of my voice so it is diminished. I mean it. They truly cannot hear me and happily go on playing. [“What, Mom? I didn’t hear you.”]

On the other hand, if they are happily playing as before, and I carefully and quietly start to open a dark chocolate with sea salt candy wrapper…on the other side of the house…they are able to not only identify that sound, but even magnify it like they were some sort of sonar operator on a navy submarine! How is this possible?!? [“Mom? Can I have some of that?”]

3. Children are able to alter chemical bonds. Let’s say you are sitting with your family at the dinner table having pleasant conversation, when all of a sudden your child falls off his chair. No. He didn’t tip over. He seems to have fallen through the chair molecules and down onto the floor. It’s as if the molecular structure of the wood was temporarily disrupted so that the bonds couldn’t support your child’s mass. Of course, whenever this happens there is also the collateral damage of a cup of grape juice splattered everywhere or spaghetti strewn all over the floor. But in our house, this happened pretty regularly. I began to have distrust for the laws of molecular bonding and often gingerly sat down when it was time for dinner.

4. Children (particularly infants) have built-in altimeters. Have you ever tirelessly walked around the house with a crying baby? No? Try it some time. It is amazing. Anyway, you finally get that precious little one to fall asleep (you know this because of phenomenon #1 above). So you slowly, carefully, gently start to sit down onto the couch. All of a sudden, this child who was knocked out starts to wake up and begin crying again. How did he know you started to sit? Yep. It is that altimeter. Now science has not discovered this biological organ in children, but believe me it is there. I have even done little sleeping experiments with my kids….standing up – child is sleeping…sitting down—child wakes up…stand up again—child sleeps again…sit down again—child wakes up. It baffles the mind!

5. Children are able to defy the laws of gravity. This one usually works only in one direction. They just seem to randomly fall down. And it happens even when there is nothing to cause them to fall. There is really no force behind it. No one pushed them. There was nothing to trip over. I often found myself asking ridiculous questions like: “How did you fall down?” “You were just standing there a second ago…what happened?” (like they really KNEW what was going on…)

6. Children can bend lightwaves. Like sound waves, they can do this selectively. Sometimes they can bend light so that it doesn’t reach their eyes. You know this one well. You ask your child to pick up their socks that are in the living room. They go into the room and come right back, saying they couldn’t see them. You go in there and notice the socks directly in the middle of the room. You ask yourself, How in the world did they not see these. Well now you know.

Of course the flip side of this one is when they are able to bend light waves so that they CAN see things that the laws of the universe say they should not be able to. Like the chocolate cake on the counter that is hiding behind the fruit bowl and the blender. Or that thing in your hand that is behind your back. Oh, yes, they can see it. Just give in now.

So there you have it. These little ones don’t seem to follow the same universal rules that the rest of us do. When do they grow out of it? Well, that is another scientific mystery…

Why I Felt Like a Cartoon Character This Weekend (or The Value of Being a Mom)

My husband’s birthday is very close to Father’s Day. So though it is tempting to combine both of those events into one celebration, we try to celebrate his birthday a week before or a week after Father’s Day so we can specifically remember his birthday as a separate event. Well, this past weekend, as part of the festivities, I took him out to his favorite restaurant. When our waitress brought the bill, I told her I was paying. But as I took the bill and placed my credit card in it, I kind of felt like this:

You see, my husband and I share all our finances. When we first got married, I was working full time and he was finishing up school. Two years later, within the time frame of about a month, he graduated, began working full time, I quit my job, and I had our first child. So our financial transition was a quick one — going from MY single income to HIS single income. And it has been that way for much of our married life.

Slowly, as our children grew, I began generating some income by writing books and speaking. Now that our children are all grown (though some still live at home while in college), I have more time to do a little more writing and speaking and am adding to our budget.

But he still provides the lions’ share. And, believe me, I am grateful.

However, throughout our marriage, I struggled with giving him gifts that were bought with money he earned.

I know. I know. We work as a unit, in a covenant, as one. What I do for our household while I care for, train, and educate our children is beyond dollar value. Even if I never, ever was given a paycheck, I am contributing to our family in critical ways.

So why do I sometimes struggle with this? Why did I feel like little Lilo this weekend, asking for money so she could be the one to pay?

Frankly, it is because I let the enemy whisper to me that what I do isn’t important. That motherhood is “less than” what any woman could do. That I am kept and paid for, just like all of our children.

This is just not true. Our culture may give lip service at Mother’s Day to all of us moms, but it really makes all mothers feel like we are sub-par if we are JUST moms.

Sweet mama. If you are feeling like that today, I want you to know that you are doing one of the greatest endeavors you can do. You are training and raising the next generation. You are the glue who keeps your household together. You help them eat better and sleep better. You can give hugs and console little ones in a way no other person on earth can.

As our culture thinks it is becoming more “enlightened,” it is forgetting the importance of some of the foundational relationships and roles given to us by our Creator. What a blessing it is when we carry out what God has for us to do. It may be tedious at some times. And it may not be glamorous. But you need to constantly remind yourself you ARE valuable and you do valuable work.

Even if it means that you have to pay for things from a joint account. That income was made not just because of your husband’s hard work but also because of the support you are giving to your husband so that he can DO his work.

It is both of yours together, and you shouldn’t feel like it is just his.

And neither should I. 🙂

In the Body of Christ, Why Do I Always Feel Like the Appendix?

There are plenty of verses in the Bible that tell us we are the body of Christ.

Romans 12:4-5 “For just as we have many members in one body and all the members do not have the same function, so we, who are many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.”

But what does that really mean? Why use that analogy? And are there more important members than others?

I sometimes feel that way. There are times when I feel like a lowly portion of the body. And I NEVER have felt like I am one of the “important” parts. Those must be reserved for people who are doing fabulous work all over the world and are well known and have written tons of books, right? They are the lungs, liver, heart, stomach, and other vital organs.

But me…most days I feel like the appendix. A tiny little thing that goes unnoticed, and the body DEFINITELY can live without.

Have you ever felt that way? As moms, we often feel that in the realm of the global Church, we are a tiny little thing that goes unnoticed, and the body DEFINITELY can live without us. We feel we aren’t really doing much for the greater body.

But think about it. When Romans says we are members in one body and all do not have the same function, that means we are all given a unique function. And if God gave us that function, wouldn’t He in his omniscience give us the best function for us to do? And if it wasn’t an important one, why would he give it to us? Why would he give it to anyone?

Each part of the body is necessary.

Think of the appendix again. Many evolutionists consider it a vestigial organ, a useless “leftover” of our evolutionary past. Until recent years, the appendix was thought to serve no real purpose.

But as science is advancing, we are learning that this little organ plays an important role in our immune system. For one, it behaves as a storage for good bacteria. So when a person gets a digestive illness, the appendix can repopulate it with good bacteria again.

This situation can often happen when we need to take a course of antibiotics for a sickness. The medicine will reduce all bacterial populations, good and bad. And those good guys living in the appendix are less likely to be affected, so they can reboot the digestive system.

Granted. You CAN live without your appendix. But you also can live without your arms and legs, without your spleen, without a good portion of your colon, or part of your liver, or minus a kidney. But that doesn’t mean those organs and body parts aren’t important. Their presence helps make the body thrive!

And all body parts need each other.

1 Corinthians 12:12 “For even as the body is one and yet has many members, and all the members of the body, though they are many, are one body, so also is Christ.”

When a person walks, they need to utilize so many of their body parts. The legs (bones, muscles, and nerves) and the arms have to move in a coordinated fashion. The brain is constantly sending out messages to them. The eyes keep watch for obstacles, and even the inner ear plays a part, keeping our balance. Without the tiniest of calcium nodules there, called ossicles, we couldn’t keep our balance, and we would have a difficult time walking. You see, all these components are needed to work together for us to do something as simple as take a few steps forward.

Psalm 133:1 “Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to dwell together in unity!”

What a great analogy. Each part of the body, big and little, grand and humble, is important and serves a greater purpose than an individual role.

We see this when the body is injured, too.

When one part of the body becomes injured, what does the rest of the body do? It works to heal the injury. It sends blood with special cells to stop the bleeding. It sends food and chemicals to support the rebuilding of muscle and skin. It sends them to heal bone. That is because the body is FOR itself. It functions better if all of its parts are working. This interconnection reminds us that we should all be FOR each other, too.

If you are feeling like the appendix in the body of Christ today, rejoice! You have been given an important role. Whether it is to encourage thousands or to make a salad for your family, you are doing a God-given job that has kingdom impact. You are raising your children to be character-filled and to boldly go into the world and serve others. You are building others up as you spend your time in prayer. You are building relationships with others in your church or neighborhood as you bring over a casserole or give an understanding hug.

You are an awesome appendix!

Not in the limelight. Quietly doing your day-by-day job. And serving the greater body of Christ as you do it.

Helping members of our body makes us all STRONGER.

AND… when we do this, we are being a light to the world. This is not the way the world usually works. People want to be on their own. They are only concerned for themselves. But we are a body, called to build relationships with each other. That builds us all up. We won’t look like the rest of the world. And that is a good thing. We are showing them that God’s ways are better than man’s ways.

So go on and be an awesome appendix today! I know I will try to “appendix well,” too!

One of the BEST summer enrichment activities you can do with your children

We all feel it. The pressure to make sure our children are meeting all the educational standards so they will be prepared for college and beyond. We make sure they have solid curriculum, engaging enrichment activities, and a good understanding of all things technological.

If we see what we might think is an educational gap, we are tempted to find yet another online course to help fill it.

Well, all those things are good. Of course we should work to make sure our children are given a solid education. But if we let ourselves worry too much over this, we might be missing one of the best opportunities to build our children’s brains.

Go take a hike.

No, I really mean it. There are plenty of new studies that show how hiking in the outdoors builds our brains. Time outside is good for education. In fact, just taking a walk outside can affect our brain physiologically, which benefits our mental health and our ability to process information.

That might be common sense to many of us, but researchers are looking into this connection because children are spending less time playing outdoors and more time working (and playing) indoors.

One study has shown that the average child in the U.S. spends half as much time outside as compared to 20 years ago. Screen time has grown on average to almost 8 hours a day, which includes television, video games, computer, tablets, and phone use.

All of us, for that matter, are spending more of our time inside. And it isn’t good for us.

Walking outside reduces stress.

Just walking in a park or even in your neighborhood for 90 minutes will benefit your state of mind. A study showed that being outside in natural environments lowers stress levels and worry, but walking in a city environment didn’t have the same impact. In fact, brain scans showed that those who walked in a natural environment had less blood flow to a specific area of their prefrontal cortex that is associated with bad moods. So a nature walk basically deactivates your brain from sadness, worry, and depression.

And you don’t have to hike for very long to reap the benefits. A 2010 study in the Journal of Environmental Science and Technology showed that even a five-minute walk boosts your emotional well-being. You just feel better about things.

Walking outside builds problem-solving skills and creativity.

In a 2012 study, participants who took a four-day wilderness hike scored 50% higher on a creative assessment test. That means taking technology breaks and going outside helps build creativity. This makes sense. When the brain is constantly being filled with digital stimuli, it doesn’t need to work on creative thinking. Colors, music, and other details are already present in a video, TV show, or computer game, so we don’t have to come up with our own ideas.

Walking outside can build focus.

Being active outdoors has been shown to reduce symptoms of ADHD. You see, the brain has to focus on what the body needs it to do as it is hiking on a path. It is busy, then, working on maintaining physical balance, watching the trail ahead, and listening to surrounding sounds as the muscles of the body have to navigate the requirements of motion.

Walking outside boosts your memory.

As you go on a hike, your body burns extra calories. This aerobic exercise increases blood flow, bringing more oxygen to the brain which builds neuron pathways. The more a neuron pathway is traveled, the easier it is for the brain to take that pathway again. So it is easier to remember things.

So as you plan your summer activities, consider boosting your child’s education by taking them outside on a nature walk. It will reduce stress, build creativity, improve memory and focus, exercise the body, and help their overall countenance! I can’t think of any computer game that can do all that!

I’m Back…And, wow, what a thing to come back to!

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For those of you who are following me here, you may have noticed I haven’t posted anything new in a few weeks. Well, first of all, even though I have a blog, I do not consider myself a “professional blogger.” Those amazing folks have blog planners and often have several weeks of posts in various stages of completion at one time. They EVEN will schedule entries to automatically post when they are not physically in front of their computers. More power to them.

I, on the other hand, am not so organized. Though I thoroughly enjoy sharing things on my heart here, a majority of my “non-homemaking, non-family” time is spent writing and filming curriculum or speaking and encouraging parents and students. As of yesterday, I arrived home from two major trips involving me traveling through 10 different airports in a period of 21 days. That’s right. During the last three weeks, I have been in the Miami airport, Heathrow airport, Nairobi airport, Kilimanjaro airport, Mwanza airport (Tanzania), Gatwick airport, La Guardia, Richmond, Atlanta, and finally Orlando, which is home. If you’re following me on Facebook , you might have seen some of the things I was busy doing.

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I packed in to my schedule a trip to Africa, including speaking to families at a national pastor’s conference in Tanzania, doing two science camps (one for an orphanage school and the other for a school for some of the poorest families in the area), and a two-day safari on the Serengeti and into the Ngorogoro Crater (look it up…it’s amazing!) so we could do some filming for science instructional DVDs I’m working on.

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I then returned to the States for one day before repacking my bags to speak at the HEAV conference in Richmond, Virginia, where I led a shark dissection for 120 students and did 5 speaking sessions on science/education/parent encouragement.

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After all of that amazing travel, I was sitting in the Richmond airport Sunday morning, waiting to catch a plane home. I was tired but on a bit of a high, thinking about all I had the opportunity to experience during those last few weeks. Then I opened my phone.

I learned of the horrible shooting in my home town. How could this have happened? Though Orlando is known worldwide, it is really a bit of a small town, only getting its notoriety once Disney and the other theme parks moved in. Now all the eyes of the nation were aiming at us and trying to make sense of the horrific loss of life.

I felt I had to post something. So I shared this on my personal Facebook page:

This is not a political post. It is not a religious one, either. This is a post to snap us all out of our bickering and infighting within our country so we can come together as Americans to stand against those who think they can brutally take human lives just because they don’t agree with what others think.

In light of the recent horrible shooting in Orlando and the tragic loss of lives (recent reports are saying maybe 50?), can we NOT discuss gun control or sexual orientation or other hotbed topics and all agree that this shouldn’t happen?

My heart this morning is where it was after the 9/11 attacks…as we felt the devastation on our own U.S. soil we dropped our political biases, our hate speeches toward each other and realized that as a country, we have been given the blessings of freedom. Terrorism and despotism and control by kings are not new… these are what our Constitution spoke against. That revolutionary document is what has given our country stability and enabled us to live in relative peace and freedom for centuries.

My prayers are with the families of those who lost loved ones yesterday. My prayers are for the doctors, nurses, paramedics, and police working to bring healing and order. And my prayers are for our country, seemingly spiraling out of control as we have forgotten where we came from and what made us so great.
Please join me in this. Don’t let the terrorists win by tearing us apart!‪#‎PrayForOrlando‬

I wasn’t trying to garner followers with this. I was just trying to encourage us all to look at this event from a proper perspective. But God has used it as it has been shared and shared again. I pray that we all look at the insanity of that event and join together as a nation. I pray that we remember WHAT our nation was founded on and that Biblical principles are relevant today and are definitely NEEDED! And, finally, I pray that God will make himself known in the hearts of those who are seeking comfort and sanity in this crazy world.

He is there. He desires a relationship with His people. He offers comfort to those who are hurting.

~Sherri