Worry – Why We Do It and How to Begin to Stop – FollowUp

Isn’t it funny how God often teaches us things through ways that we don’t expect? Yesterday, I posted about how we all can fall into the trap of worrying about things in our lives (See HERE). Scripture tells us that worry doesn’t accomplish anything. It doesn’t add to our days or fix our problems. There are several intentional things we can do to keep ourselves from those thoughts that can seep in, and I wanted to check back today to see if any of you had any feedback.

But I am checking in with my own feedback. You see, yesterday afternoon, my blog site went down. There was no way to access the admin site or the hosting site. I am the first to admit that I have absolutely NO technological ability, either. My super-techie son is the one who helped me design and set up this site, and he maintains it, too.

But he is out of town and has limited contact right now. When I was notified that people couldn’t access my site, I didn’t know what to do. I have several friends who have had their sites hacked and have lost all of their content. I was sitting at my desk yesterday imagining all the headache that I would have to go through to try to fix this all by myself.

And the worry set in.

Can you catch the irony of that? The very day I wrote about what our God says about worry, I am faced with a huge frustrating situation.

OK. I get it, Lord. YOU are trying to teach ME through this.

So I prayed, asking Him for wisdom and peace. And I actually felt better. I made a few contacts for help and then I went about my day, putting useless thoughts and concerns out of my mind.

And it worked. I didn’t have that pit-in-my-stomach feeling. Whenever I found myself thinking about the situation, I thought of you who read the post and that I needed to take my own exhortation.

I am truly grateful for God’s word and how it is so relevant for us today. His word is timeless, powerful, and it is Truth!

I pray that any of you who struggle with worry will go to the One who understands. The One who gave us wise counsel and direction.

Give it to God! …And let Him amaze you!

Sherri

By the way, the website problem was just due to my hosting site that was undergoing “unannounced regular updating.” Now that I see the big picture, I know that worrying about it wouldn’t have done me any good anyway. I’m learning.

Worry – Why We Do It and How to Begin to Stop

It is late. You finally get the last child to bed. Well, he was put to bed over an hour ago, but this time, hopefully, it sticks. Throw that last load of laundry in the dryer, start the dishwasher so you’ll have clean bowls tomorrow morning, shower, brush teeth, phone on the charger…

…and finally… your head hits the pillow.

SLEEP. SLEEP. Go. To. Sleeeeeep. Do it. now.

Well, first, what am I going to do tomorrow with my son and his lack of desire to do school? I just don’t think I can deal with another fight.

And then there’s the little one who is almost three and not potty trained yet. I’ve been putting that off, but I know it is me and my lack of discipline, not him.

And I have to start dealing with the things going on in our support group. Should I send an email? Should I just be quiet?

And how are we going to deal with our budget this month? We need to have the car repaired, but we DO need to eat. Should I be looking for a home business or part time job? What if I wait too long and we get too far behind? Or should I just trust that things are going to be OK?

And…

And…

And…

We all go through this. It is the one time in the day that everything around us has finally slowed down and our minds finally are free to think about other things besides wiping up spills and drilling spelling words. The thoughts start flowing in.

I don’t know about you all, but for me, that was when the bigger issues came into my mind. It wasn’t ever things like, “What kind of fruit should I serve with our waffles tomorrow morning?”

No. It was bigger things. Harder things. Things that I kept pushing to the back of my mind in the day so I wouldn’t have to deal with them.

But now they are back and I feel it coming. It is strong and pushes itself to the front of my mind. It is worry.

Do you ever worry, dear mommas? I know I do. I have to deal with it all the time. Why? We are instructed not to do it. Why is this such a hard thing? Why is this such a constant thing? Well, the end of verse 34 in Matthew gives us a clue: “Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

Truth.

I have experienced those daily troubles. Have you? But the problem is that I hold on to them. I feel like I have to dwell on them. But that is the problem. You see, earlier in that chapter of Matthew, he tells us not to store up earthly treasures that do not last, because “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

And that’s the rub. You see, when I worry, I am dealing with fretting over earthbound treasures and issues and anxiety bound needs. These issues are all about me. That’s not why I am created to live. My dear Father in Heaven knows just what I need. He knows it before I do.

In the grand scheme of things, is it really a big deal that my child has not yet potty trained? Nowhere on a college application or job resume is a spot for “age potty trained.” He’ll get there.

What about the other son’s lack of enthusiasm about school? Will this always be a constant battle? Maybe, but isn’t that one of the reasons we are given our children? To train them up in the ways of the Lord and to come alongside them to help them to develop wisdom and character. Sometimes that involves lots of prayer and continual endurance. Oh, yeah. As we are training them, aren’t we becoming more refined in the fire as well?

How about the issues with my support group? Same thing. We are called to be a light to others, we are still growing ourselves and need to mature as we walk through the troubles of this world. There will always be conflict, but we can make that conflict become a way to bring God glory as we walk through the hard stuff that happens when people get together.

Money? Well, that might always be an issue. But the richness of the word in Matthew here helps us to see more about how our “earthbound treasure and anxiety bound needs” affect us.

Don’t we know that our Heavenly Father knows what we need? When we worry, we are really telling ourselves that we don’t believe that God is engaged with us. We don’t think that he is actively involved in our lives.

But, precious mommas, let me remind us all. Without God’s continual presence and love, our lives wouldn’t even be sustained. He is upholding us even now. He knit us together when he formed us, and he is holding our every molecule within our bodies together with his hand. Of course he is aware of our needs.

And this is the biggest rub.

“Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?”

Let that sink in.

Are we accomplishing ANYTHING by worrying about it? No.

Let me propose something to you. I usually only post once a week due to my crazy travel and writing schedule, but I am going to come back tomorrow to post a follow-up on this. It is important.

Put a notepad and pen on your nightstand before you go to bed this evening. As you lie there tonight, if something worms its way into your head that causes you to begin to worry, lean over and jot it down. Then ASK GOD for his hand in whatever that worry is. He knows. He loves you. He’s got it.

Now go to sleep in the knowledge and peace that “not even Solomon in his splendor will be clothed like you.”

This short passage in Matthew concludes by saying that we should “seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Not all our wants and anxiety bound needs. But what God knows we need.

He’s got this.

We need to trust Him.

If you struggle with worry, I challenge you to try this tonight. Give those worries to the One who is in control of the universe and of all eternity. Treasure HIM. And rest in that.

I’ll be praying for a good rest for you tonight!

Checking in tomorrow, Sherri

Don’t Stop Reading Aloud to Your Children – Even Your Teens!

Most of us are pretty diligent to read books to our children when they are toddlers. It promotes great lap and cuddle time, they love to look at the pictures and turn the pages (5 at a time) as we read, and many of those stories are so sweet! Read-alouds are great for calming them down at bedtime, too. We continue to do this as they enter elementary school because we are told it is beneficial to them. Yes, our early readers need to be regularly reading out loud to US at this age to help build their skills, too. And, quite frankly, it builds Mom’s skill of patience as the child labors to sound out words as I wait with bated breath during those hauntingly long pauses.

“The….b..boy…and…h..h..his…d…d..d…

No. Don’t fill in the word for him…. must…hold…out.

Sorry. I digress.

Reading out loud to our children provides more benefits than you know. You get to extend that sweet time of cuddling on the couch as you enjoy fascinating adventures and mysteries together. You are able to discuss things that happened in the story and guess together what you think will happen next. It builds comprehension skills, and thinking skills, and vocabulary skills, and I could go on and on.

I always had a book that we were reading aloud together as a family during school time. Sometimes it fit with what we were studying in history or other subjects. Other times it was a completely stand-alone book, but one that we thought would be a great read.

I loved reading aloud to my children, too. But there WAS one pitfall.

It was often the first opportunity in the day that I had to actually sit on the couch. And there were several times that I would be reading, some kids sitting next to me and others playing quietly on the floor, when all of a sudden… I would wake up! I would see the book still open on my lap, yet the children had suddenly disappeared!

Yes. I had actually read MYSELF to sleep! I imagine my children hearing Mom as she was reading, then her voice suddenly became slurred and quiet….

Wait…Mom is asleep…Let’s tiptoe out of the room so we can go play with our toys!

Yep. I’m pretty sure that is what happened. The only report I would get from them is, “You fell asleep, so we thought read-aloud time was over. We didn’t want to wake you up (how THOUGHTFUL of them), so we came here to play.”

Well, that is my one and only caution to you if you read books out loud to your children. It is a good idea to sit upright and not get too comfortable.

So at what age do we stop reading to them? Some say once they are able to read to themselves, then you are good. Others say once they hit middle school. Still others say high school is a good place to stop.

I say NEVER STOP READING TO THEM!

When my kids were younger, I would read to the littler ones. I didn’t gather the older ones to join us, because I thought they had “more important” things to do. But I noticed something interesting. As we were sitting on the couch, the older ones would walk by us in the room. They would pause. Then they would quietly sit down nearby. They were listening! They were interested in hearing the stories, too.

I wondered if I should stop to remind them to get busy with other work, but I stopped myself. I just kept on reading. And I am glad I did.

I realized that this is a family building time. Reading together allows all of us to share a great experience as a family. Sometimes they would hear me as I was choking out words between tears during a particularly sad part of a story. Other times, I couldn’t get the words out because what was happening was so funny. So I would give the book to another child who could read it to us all.

Many times we did family reading times in the evening so we could include Dad into the mix. There is such a blessing for our children to hear their father read stories to them. You see, when you hear a story, you are sharing emotions together. You are able to talk about what’s going on in the story. Yes, academically, there is lots of education happening, too.

But I suggest that the more important part of doing this is for the benefit of the relationships. And THAT is precisely why I think it is so important to try to read with your teens. Take turns reading to each other. It doesn’t always have to be a preachy time where Mom and Dad discuss the moral of the story and the lessons we should all learn from it.

Dialogue with your teens. Let them have turns reading. Maybe bring up a topic from the book a day or two later. This gives you the opportunity to capture deeper moments together. To better find out what is going on in the head and heart of your young adults.

You can laugh together, you can question together, you can learn together as you discover great literature.

Several years ago, when our children were pre-teens and teens, we took a three-week-long family trip, driving around the western United States. Knowing we would be doing lots of driving, we packed several books on tape. One story, in particular, was 19 hours long. It was an adventure novel series. And it was fascinating.

On one day of our trip, we were listening to a portion of the story as we were driving to Arches National Park. As we pulled up to our parking place, the kids didn’t want to get out of the van.

“C’mon, guys. Look ahead of you, there are amazing red-earthed arches the height of tall buildings in front of you. Let’s go explore them!”

“Dad, can we wait until this chapter is done, first? Pleeeease?”

“What? Can’t you see this? ARCHES NATIONAL PARK! It is BEAUTIFUL!”

“We know, Dad. We want to see it. But we are in the middle of an adventure.”

And THAT is why we need to enjoy good books together. THAT is why we shouldn’t stop doing this when they complete elementary school. Enjoy those adventures together! They are not “too cool” or “too grown up” for this.

Don’t stop reading to them. It is one more way to pursue and build relationships with your children as they become young adults.

Capture that time together!

An Unbelievably Simple Plan for Cleaning Success

When was the last time you cleaned the cobwebs out of the upper corners of your rooms? How about dusting the ceiling fans or cleaning the top of your refrigerator? I know. Those chores are not as critical as cleaning the toilets or making sure the spilled honey on the floor of the kitchen is mopped. But as I go about my day, I often wonder if those areas will EVER get cleaned. Add to that, if you are training the children to do some of these chores, you know they are likely not going to clean the way YOU would clean. The corners of the floor may not get swept or there will be streaks left on the bathroom mirror. You don’t want to always come behind them to “do it right” or they will never feel like they are meeting your expectations.

When my kids were younger and learning to do these chores, I remember biting my tongue when guests would use our bathroom.

The kids cleaned in there this week, not me.

Oh, and they were the ones who messed it up in the first place.

It was a struggle to balance the feelings of realizing that our life with little ones included some beautiful messes, wanting our house somewhat sanitized for guests, and being frustrated at looking at all those dust bunnies under the couch taunting me.

This week I am traveling to Atlanta to speak at the Teach Them Diligently Convention. One of my workshops is titled, “Homeschooling and Homemaking: From Misorganzation to Miss Organization.”

One section of the workshop deals with trying to get a handle on these areas that can be hard to stay on top of. I call these cleaning issues Detail Cleaning, because we don’t necessarily need to do them each week, but if we never do them, we’ll have deep, dark corners of our home that make us shudder as we walk by.

The idea behind this chart is to divide your house into eight sections. Your house sections will look a little different from mine, depending on your house configuration and what chores are more important to you. You may want to include one for a large back porch or a garage. You may not have a room dedicated as a school room, but you might want to include a long hallway, foyer, and storage closets.

Once you have your divisions, then all you need to do is dedicate 30-45 minutes in your week for detail cleaning. I do mine on Friday mornings. So on my calendar, every Friday morning at 10:00 has Detail Clean. Now how do I know where to clean? I look at my chart. The first Friday, I will clean areas in my kitchen. I pull things off the counters and clean behind them. Gone are those crumbly toast crumbs! I pull out the step ladder and wipe down the top of the fridge. I clean the kitchen window and wipe down the vent hood over our stove with grease cleaner.

The next Friday I will tackle detail cleaning in the master bedroom, getting the ceiling fan, using the vacuum hose to get under the bed, wiping down our blinds, and other detail areas I don’t get to each week.

You see, these are areas that we just can’t tackle during the regular weekly cleaning. It also gives us a chance to hit those areas that our kids might not be covering while doing their chores. And if we designate a time to do them, we can be sure eventually they will be covered. In fact, if we follow the chart, these areas will be cleaned every other month! And without us having to overfill our schedules. Just 30 minutes a week!

Now let’s say you have a field trip planned one Friday. That’s OK. I find that if I have something on my calendar, then I will make a point to move it to another spot in my schedule so I am sure to do it. If it isn’t on my calendar at all, I never seem to get it done. So look for a small space of time Thursday afternoon or Saturday morning. And if you just can’t get to it that week, just push that detail cleaning area to the next Friday, and you’re good to go.

It is so important that we intentionally take time to plan. If we don’t, the unimportant things will easily fill our days. This is one way I have found to get a small handle on some areas where I have felt out of control.

5 Ways We’re Making Homeschooling the Elementary Years More Difficult

You know when you used to talk with your grandparents they would begin a story with, “Well, when I was your age…”?

Well, I am not a grandma (yet), and I am definitely not YOUR grandma, but I do feel grandparently or parently toward you as a homeschooler. [Yes, I know those two words are not words – don’t correct your older when she is talking.]

When I was your age, the world of homeschooling was bright and new. It had recently become legal in all 50 states, thanks to so many courageous families that had gone before me. I had four little ones, six years apart, and just figuring out how to break out of the mold of making my homeschool look like the public school I knew while I was growing up. We had little desks, a long alphabet poster along the wall, and even a white board.

There was little curricula available to homeschoolers, so I used the library as one of my major resources for our education. We were there at least twice a month, gathering a large basket of books. When we got home, the kids disappeared, taking an armful of books and poring over them under the dining room table or on the couch or on their beds. They would often cuddle together, the older one reading to the younger ones.

Sometimes the older ones liked to hear the younger ones “read” to them, making up words as they looked at the pictures. What creative minds they had! I enjoyed hearing the giggles.

Fast forward to present day. As I travel to homeschool conferences around the nation, I am finding moms who are totally stressed out, ready to throw in the towel because this deal is just overwhelming. So I ask them, “How old are your children?”

“Four and six.”

What? Why are you so stressed out? This is the time in their lives when learning is so much fun. They are full of wide-eyed exploration. Granted there needs to be some reading, writing and ‘rithmetic in the mix, but there is so much time to spend on fun stuff as you build those skills.

What happened? Why have we made homeschooling so hard?

Some of it is due to real concerns, such as preparing them to become good readers and giving them a good foundation in their math facts. But what about these?

1. History and Science Buffs

I know history and science are fun and fascinating (After all, I am a scientist. I love the stuff!) Who can resist learning about mummification or dressing up as medieval lords and ladies? Building toys, balloons, baking soda, and vinegar can easily fill the day with awesome science education. But why do we feel like we have to teach our children everything about everything before they reach the fifth grade? Are they REALLY ruined if they didn’t yet learn about the ancient aboriginal culture of the Maori or the particle/wave theory of light? We feel the pressure to cover all of our bases, so we are tempted to purchase hundreds of dollars of history curriculum with elaborate notebooks and writing journals. We switch science curriculum each year to find the perfect one that will make our littles into Einsteins.

I fell into the stress of this, too. Overhearing a family talking about how their children could recite portions of Beowolf in its original language caused me to make a beeline to my credit card so I could buy the curriculum they were using so my kids wouldn’t be missing out. That curriculum sat on my shelf for years before I finally cracked it open. It turns out we had covered most of what was in there by that time, and what we hadn’t, we would do in middle school. You see, the elementary years are for building foundational skills of the three R’s.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t teach them anything else…history and science ARE important…but we should look at them as ways to reinforce our children’s reading, writing, and logic skills. I’m just saying that we create for ourselves little worlds of stress and frustration when we feel the weight of teaching everything.

Plan well and stay focused. Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing.

2. Curriculum Overload

Well, they say the one who knows best about a problem area is the one who has that problem. I confess. I am a curriculum junkie. I LOVE looking at (and buying) new curriculum. There is just something fun about a new lesson plan, along with the promises that are made, telling me that my child will complete this program as a genius.

This is especially true when you have an area in which your child struggles. I can’t tell you how many times I strolled down the homeschool convention halls looking for the “fix-my-broken-speller-in-a-box” curriculum. I think we tried a different curriculum each year because we just weren’t seeing progress in this area.

Granted. That is one of the things I LOVE about homeschooling. If a curriculum doesn’t work for your child or your family, you have the blessing to make the executive decision to change it. And that’s great! But I was so easily drawn by the siren song of new curricula that, at least for some subjects, I felt like we were in a perpetual learning curve.

 3. Testing

Yes, we need to test them. At least eventually. But do we have to do it after every lesson? It IS important for us to make sure they are understanding the material we are covering, but in the elementary years, they often remember that material better if they draw and color about it. If they make a diorama showing what was learned. If they present the information to your family, dressing for the occasion, preparing posters for showcasing, and practicing how they are going to present it.

When we build up everything they learn to the final climax of “Now let’s take a test to see what you remember,” then believe me, the excitement for learning tends to become yet another stress.

They may start to think, Let’s go slower through this so I learn less so I have to remember less.

Whoops. That’s not what we want, is it? Now, I’m not saying we should never give them tests to see progress. Testing is a common convention and thus a skill they need to learn. But we can definitely overdo it!

4. Sports

Do I have to elaborate on this one? I could go into the stress of performance because “Dad was so good at this when he was your age.” Or I could talk about how, between practices, games, and multiple kids going multiple places, sports can make families split themselves into whirling tornadoes. Add to that the pressure to focus on a single sport and the “need” to start younger and younger, and we are getting kids with long-term sports-specific injuries at much younger ages. I personally know several little ones who have already blown out pitching elbows or volleyball knees. And all for that beloved college scholarship?

Let me tell you. Having had a child in a club sport for a few years quickly showed us that we could take that money we were spending on the “privilege” of being in a club, coupled with travel and equipment (and injury) costs, and invest that money so that our child would have her college costs paid for!

5. Pinterest

Yes, I have a Pinterest account. I love Pinterest. But Pinterest can be a deceptor. It draws you in with its lovely images of monster truck birthday cakes and printing press how-tos. Then when you buy into its temptations, you either have a mess on your hands or you have invested a full week into making this stuff do what it’s supposed to.

In the Pinterest world, every meal is nutritious and elaborately (impossibly) decorated. The only one I think I got right was Sherman’s burning of the South. It was an accident, but hey, let’s at least pretend that my burnt grilled cheese sandwiches had an educational theme.

Pinterest also tells us that we can sew gorgeous clothes for our children out of shreds of newspaper and banana peels. We can make our own home decorations, too, so that when we document our lives in weekly planned photo shoots, our children will look amazing.

Now these are only a few of the things that I think make us stumble as we endeavor to educate our children. Can I just sum up by saying that we are looking for progress each YEAR, not day by day conquests. We’ll have lots of ups and downs through the year as we train and educate. We are looking to build up godly men and women who will go out one day and boldly serve the Lord in whatever He has called them to do.

And the road it takes to get them there is not peppered with rose petals (at least most days). Let’s give ourselves and each other a break and see things in the big picture.

Really. Some days I felt accomplished if my kids were fed and the house didn’t burn down. Well… at least if it did burn down, I could always call it my depiction of Sherman’s burning of the South again, right?

How Magazine Files Can Help You with Storage

For years we have all been encouraged to operate with less paperwork and more electronic storage. But it seems that a completely paperless society is still far on the horizon. I don’t know about you but I continually need lots of storage for paperwork. Add children and education to that and you have colored papers, lined paper, worksheets, and a myriad of other hard copy material you still need to store.

Hanging file folders in a file cabinet work well, but file cabinets take up space, and you can only have so many of them.

Years ago, I began using magazine files to store many of my papers. Magazine files are designed for storing magazines, and they are oriented in a portrait layout instead of the landscape layout of traditional file cabinets. So how do I use these portable containers for organized storage?

Enter the backpack folder.

It is designed with the dividing tabs on one end of the folder and a side opening for easy filling. They fit perfectly inside magazine files, allowing you to have an organized method of storing your important papers. Never seen them before? Actually, backpack folders are easier to find than you may think. Of course a quick internet search will provide you with plenty of sources to purchase from, but I have found them in Target and even the dollar store.

I love using this method of storing paperwork!

Because magazine files only require shelf or desk space, you can store this file system anywhere. I have a designated spot on a bookshelf for most of mine, but I also have some on top of a desk and a decorative one on a shelf with other materials. It hides my stuff in a beautiful way but also keeps it handy when I need it.

And because the magazine files are self-standing and portable, you can slide one out and bring it wherever you need it in your house.

When it comes to household organization, I like to think outside the box. I look at the available space I have and try to make it as useful as possible. This is one “trick” that has worked great for me.

If you are struggling with a paperwork monster that is difficult to contain, let me encourage you to try several methods until you find one that works best for you. But don’t invest in expensive storage containers until you do a trial run using maybe boxes and folders you have on hand. Then when you find something that works, you can be on the hunt for fun and pretty containers. After all, if we have to keep things organized, we can at least do it in a beautiful way!

Have an extraordinary day!

The Power of Words for Our Children: The Metaphor of Salt

This past weekend, I had the privilege to speak to families on the subject of the power of our words for our children. In that workshop I focused on just a FEW of the verses in the Bible that address the power of the tongue and the importance of our speech. Now, if we were to do an exhaustive study on what God says about our words, we would have had to camp at that conference center for days!

Prov. 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.”

Those are some drastic extremes. For us, that means that we need to seriously consider how we use our words to engage and encourage our children. An unguarded rant made out of frustration can do lots of damage to little ears. And once it is spoken, you can’t unsay it, right?

Well, one of the points I discussed has to do with what Paul writes in Colossians 4:6. He says, “Let your speech be always gracious, seasoned with salt, that you can know how you should answer everyone.”

We are instructed here to make our words salty. Why does Paul use this metaphor?

Well, salt is an enhancer. When you are whipping up a batch of sweet cookies, you add some salt into the mix. Why? Salt isn’t sweet, yet it is necessary for a perfectly delicious cookie. Why would you add it to a sweet recipe, then?

Because it enhances the sweetness. That is one of the things salt does. It improves and deepens the flavor of whatever it is mixed in.

One of my favorite sweet treats is a dark chocolate bar that has a “hint of sea salt.” Have you ever tasted one? You take a bite of the rich, creamy chocolate, and as you begin chewing, you suddenly experience a bit of the salt, causing the flavor in your mouth to explode with chocolatey deliciousness!

I’m sorry. I digress. (But I LOVE those things!)

Needless to say, salt enhances the flavor of whatever it is in.

Likewise, our words need to be seasoned with the saltiness of the Truth…gracious speech, as Paul says. You see, when we speak words of encouragement and words filled with graciousness, we build up our children. We fill their sails.

Just an intentional word letting your son know you are grateful for his willingness to share his toys with his brother…

…or your daughter’s joyful obedience…

…or your son’s persevering as he worked through a particularly challenging school assignment…

…each of these will fill up your kids. This kind of intentional encouragement sticks with them. Even with your teens. They may sigh, but in their hearts they are filled in a way that will remind them that you are FOR them. You see their value and importance, and you identified it specifically.

Explosion of deliciousness!

Salt is also a preserver. Before the days of refrigeration, people would keep meats and other foods longer by salting them. Salt dries out food by removing its water. And that makes it difficult for bacteria to grow. Thus the food lasts longer.

Words seasoned with salt last. They endure. They are not fluffy or empty. Do you want what you say to be a short sound bite for your kids, or do you want it to last and be held in their hearts? Our words need to be sprinkled with the truth and encouragement of the Word.

Long-lasting!

Finally, salt is healing.

Prov. 16:24 “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.

Salt particles have been shown to kill pathogenic microorganisms by dehydrating their cells. Salt has also been shown to reduce inflammation and remove mucus from airways so people can more easily breathe. This also can help with allergies and other respiratory illnesses. Natural salt in our diet provides important minerals like potassium and magnesium which help the nervous system and provide a healthy calcium balance in the body.

Words seasoned with salt heal. They encourage growth. They are filled with nutrients for our soul. When you speak edifying words to your children, they will be inspired to grow. They will be pushed on to accomplish greater things.

Vitality!

So I encourage all of us to be intentional with our words. We need to remember that our words are powerful and can build up our children so they will soar. By carefully crafting them, we can season our words to make them encouraging, enduring, and delicious!

I pray that we all will work to use our words so they are refreshing to the soul!

A New Font for Readers with Dyslexia

I am always excited when I see things that help students who learn differently. Having raised children with diagnosed ADHD and dysgraphia and watching them struggle to navigate through educational hurdles, this piece of news makes me smile.

Christian Boer, a graphic designer in the Netherlands, has developed a special font that aids dyslexic individuals in their reading. It is called “Dyslexie,” and it is designed to enable dyslexics like Boer more easily identify letters.

You see, those with dyslexia often get similar letters confused. Dyslexia is a processing issue, not a problem with intelligence. Please don’t confuse processing issues with how smart someone is!

Letters that are mirrored, such as “b” and “d” are often interchanged in the brain when a person with dyslexia is reading. Letters that can be flipped, like “p” and “d” are also an issue. What Boer did was carefully design each letter so that it is unique from the others. He made all the letters slightly thicker at their bases so they appear heavier and weighted down. He also slightly angled others so that they look more distinct. The capital letters in this font are in bold, as well as all punctuation.

All of these details produce a font that is much easier to read.

And the best part? This font is free for home use at dyslexiefont.com.

If you have a reluctant reader or one who struggles, why not try a few sentences using this font? It may be just the thing to give your student a boost in their learning.

And don’t give up. Keep trying new ways to gently encourage reading. If your student is struggling, require reading only during actual reading lessons, but maybe read aloud other subjects’ assignments. Allow your children to listen to books on tape, too. Continue to encourage a love of learning while slowly building on reading skills as your child matures. It will happen.

And, perhaps, this new font will play a helpful part!

A Scientific Look at the Branches, Vine, and Grafting in the Bible

This week I was reading in the book of Romans and came across this verse:

Romans 11:17 – “But if some of the branches were broken off, and you, although a wild olive shoot, were grafted in among the others and now share in the nourishing root of the olive tree” (ESV).

Of course, this verse is super-packed with great information and encouragement for us. The major thing going on here is that some wild olive shoots are grafted into an existing tree. They then are able to get their food and water from the roots of that existing plant.

Let’s first discuss what grafting is. Once we look at this process, then we will have a much fuller understanding of what the verse means for us.

Celery cross section

Grafting is a technique where a section of a stem with some leaf buds is attached to the stock of an existing tree. It is placed onto the stock plant so that the vascular cambium tissue of both pieces lines up. That way the grafted portion is able to receive nutrients from the stock.

Vascular cambium is the material that produces the xylem and phloem of plants. Xylem and phloem transport fluid and nutrients within a plant’s tissues – kind of like the blood vessels in our bodies. You can see the vascular tissue in this celery stalk.

What this really means is that the wild shoot is cut in a way that it fits into a specific spot on the existing plant so that the transport vessels of both pieces line up. In this way, the grafted piece can continue to grow as it is fed nutrients and water by the stock plant.

You can see a cherry tree grafting below.

The “v” shape shows where the graft occurred. The shoot was cut into a point and the stock was cut into a “v” so that when they were placed together and tied off, the connection was stronger.

cherry tree graft

Well, what’s going on with the illustration of us being the branches grafted onto the tree? The verse is referring to the Gentile believers being grafted in to the nation of Israel. They were once not a part of them and now have been carefully pruned and placed within, able to receive the bountiful richness and blessings that are promised to Israel.

In John 15:5, we see a similar analogy: “I am the vine; you are the branches. Whoever abides in me and I in him, he it is that bears much fruit, for apart from me you can do nothing.” (ESV)

We as believers are grafted to the family of Christ. All of our nourishment, then is provided by the main root. We all are a part of the same plant.

This gives us a great opportunity to discuss how we should live with one another. You see, as Christians, we are not each other’s enemy. We each have special fruit that we can produce. Some of us may make purple grapes, while others make green ones. Some may make those tiny, delicious champagne grapes, and others produce giant, juicy red ones. Yet if we work against one another, we twist our tendrils around one another, preventing some from growing. If they are not making grapes the way we are, then we think they must be doing it wrong. So we try to grow over them, blocking their sunlight, choking them off.

That is not our purpose. We are brothers and sisters in Christ, grafted into his vine. We all receive nourishment from his word and are able to grow and produce great fruit!

https://www.fruitsaladtrees.com/

Here is an image from the Fruit Salad Tree Company. It truly is a tree that produces enough fruit varieties for a salad!

And just like this amazing citrus tree can produce multiple citrus fruits simultaneously because of grafting, we, as the body of Christ, also can produce a cornucopia of spiritual fruit, serving others, spreading the Gospel, and bringing the hope of God’s word to a dry and thirsty world!

That Colorful Dress, How We See Color, and How to Make It an Educational Activity

If you have been on the internet in the last 48 hours, you have already seen and debated over whether “the dress” is white and gold, or blue and black. If you haven’t seen it yet, look HERE. No matter the color you saw, you were absolutely positive that you were seeing it correctly and others were absolutely wrong!

How can this be? You know what you were seeing. And if you look over the hundreds of comments, you will find that there were even a few who sometimes saw white and gold and other times saw blue and black, depending on how they were observing it.

Why?

Well, having been a homeschooler for two decades, I have to take this interesting phenomenon and turn it into a short science lesson. Let’s do a few things to explore what our body does to perceive color.

Things are not actually “made” of color. Rather, as Isaac Newton noted, the surface of objects reflects some colors and absorbs others. So a red rose really does not have red within it. Its surface reflects the wavelengths of light we see as red and absorbs all of the other wavelengths. When light is bent as through a prism, each unique wavelength of light is bent a bit differently causing the various wavelengths of color to be seen. That is how we see rainbows. White light is bent through droplets of water and bends.

So if you look at green grass, it is absorbing all of the wavelengths of white light except for green which it reflects back to your eye. Things that appear white reflect all wavelengths of light, and things that appear black absorb all the wavelengths. (Incidentally, that is why a black shirt makes you feel hotter on a sunny day than a white shirt does…it is absorbing sunlight instead of reflecting it).

Now there is more to this than our eyes just receiving light. Special cells on our retina send signals to the brain about what information they receive. Then our brain tries to make sense of those signals. For example, if you know that sugar is white, then whenever you see a bowl of sugar, your brain tells you it is white. But if you are looking at the sugar in a darkened room, that sugar may only be able to reflect enough light so your brain receives a tan or brown signal. However, your brain “knows” you are looking at a bowl of sugar, so it tells you you are seeing white.

Try this little exercise with your family. Without any of them watching, take a bunch of bowls and fill each with a different “whitish” material: sugar, flour, salt, oatmeal flakes, baking soda, brown sugar, and grits or cream of wheat (whichever your household has based on if you’re from the North or the South!).

Now bring them all to a place that has very dim lighting. Ask your family to come in and see all the bowls. Tell them you have filled them with “sugar and other similar stuff.” Ask them these questions: What color are they? Are they all the same color?

If the lights are dim enough, most of your family will say that all the bowls are filled with white stuff. Now bring the bowls to a brightly lit room. Have them notice how there are various shades of “white” in the bowls. Even the brown sugar may have appeared white in the dark room. What happened?

Well, you first gave them a frame of reference by saying the bowls were filled with sugar. They have already learned that sugar is white, so they were looking at the bowls with a preconceived idea of what they should see.

Our brains actually take in information and then try to decipher that information with what our brains know to be true.

So back to the dress.

Why do so many see it one color set, while others see it another? Part of it has to do with their brain’s initial perception. The first set of colors we perceive, that is what will be ingrained in our mind, and it is really hard to change our brain perception, no matter how many explanations we get. The dress colors were tweaked due to the way the image was taken, making it kind of an optical illusion.

You see, colors are perceived by special cells in our eyes that are arranged in groups of opposite colors on the color wheel. A color wheel is an illustration of the various types of color hues around a circle. Their placement in the circle shows their relationships between colors in correspondence with the wavelengths of light. Colors opposite each other on the wheel are complementary colors, and believe it or not, the cone cells of our eyes are arranged by their reception of complementary colors.

For those of you who just heard a bunch of “science, science, science…” in that last paragraph, I am just saying that colors opposite each other on the color wheel are paired up in our eyes. So blue colors are paired up with  yellow-orange. And, interestingly, the black/white receptors are paired up.

So when we are looking at a blue and black dress, depending on the background colors and our preconceived ideas, we will see it as blue and black OR the complementary colors of orangish (gold) and white.

Isn’t that cool? This dress causing so much dialogue on the internet is really more of an optical illusion. And a great opportunity to discuss some science!

So as a bonus, here is one of my favorite optical illusions. Stare at the black dot for 30-45 seconds, then quickly look at a white sheet of paper (make sure the room you are in is well lit).

If you do it correctly, you should see complementary colors in place of the colors on this blog page. That is because you have exhausted the receptor cells in your retina, and the only ones left to fire are the complementary color receptors.

Cool, isn’t it? And all because of a dress!