Building Note-taking Skills, Part IV

If you have been following along, you know that this is the fourth and final post on how to build note-taking skills for students. The previous parts are HERE, HERE, and HERE.

In this episode (cue the exciting music): Notehand.

Notehand is unlike shorthand, which was a way for secretaries to quickly take word-for-word notes by using special symbols and swirls to later decipher the notes back into a complete script.

Notehand, however, is a way for students to compile important information so they can refer to it later. It should not be word-for-word, but rather point-for-point. Because it is simply not possible to write out words as quickly as someone is speaking, you have to come up with a way to write information in a shorter form in a way that is easy to understand when it is read later.

By using abbreviated words, incomplete sentences, and various symbols that stand for larger or regularly used words, you can more easily notate the information given in a lecture or presentation. The best way to do this is to begin to form a notehand method that works best for YOU. It needs to be intuitive to each person. That means what works for one person may not work as well for another. So here are some helpful hints to get you started.

The first point to remember is that you don’t need to write every word said. As a matter of fact, you don’t even need to write ALL of each word, either. One way to do this is to drop many vowels. “Among” would be amng, “because” would shorten to bcs, “however” would become hwvr.

You can also drop the last letters of long words. “Medium” would be med, “abbreviation” would be abbrev, and “circumference” would be circum.

Within a sentence, small articles and short words can be dropped. You can eliminate is, are, was, were, a, an, the, this, of, and many more. Pronouns can also often be dropped. Words like they, these, his, that, and them. But you don’t want to remove connecting words or words that help to join important ideas.

Many words can be replaced with symbols. Use the ampersand (&) for and, w/ can replace with, w/o for without, and w/in for within. Betw for between, # for number (NOT a hashtag!), #s for numbers, and govt for government. 1˚ means primary, 2˚ means secondary, and so on. Ordinal numbers can be written by 1st, 2nd, 3rd, etc. Now, some of these you are probably already using, but it is good to remind yourself how easy it is to shorten your words to write more quickly.

When there is a summary statement, three small circles in the shape of a triangle like this    ̥ ˚   ̥ means therefore. It is a good way to highlight a concluding or summary idea.

Of course you can use the symbol + for plus or and, = for equal or is, > for more than or greater than, and < for less than. You can also use an arrow for leads to or produces.

So how might this be helpful in a sentence? Well, let’s take a sample sentence and then write it with notehand:

Now look at this one:

Can you see here how only the important information is written? The notes just include the facts and any needed info to connect those facts.

Another helpful hint is to figure out if there are any frequently used words during a course or in any lecture type. For example, if you taking an American history course, you will very likely be hearing the name, George Washington. You can determine to always abbreviate his name GW whenever you hear it. In a physics or physical science course, the word, energy, pops up often. It can be written as a capital E.

In biology, photosynthesis is a word that is too long to take the time to write out. You can shorten it to photsyn or whatever makes good sense to you.

The point here is to come up with a convention that helps you to take down information in a way that can easily be referred to later. It has to be intuitive to you. So there are no step-by-step instructions. However, as you practice taking notes, you will get better and better at doing it.

Think of this as learning to snow ski. You can watch videos on how to ski. You can talk with people who have done it and ask them for help. But the only way you are actually going to learn it is to go on those slopes and do it. You start slowly, perhaps on a bunny slope which is gentle and short. Then once you have mastered skiing there, you are more prepared to go for longer runs!

I know. Note-taking may not be as fun as downhill skiing, but it does make education more enjoyable if you are able to remember important information presented to you. It will benefit you throughout your life, not only during your high school and college years.

By listening to a lecture, writing notes into a notebook or laptop, and reviewing the notes at a later time, you will better remember the information because it has been processed in an auditory, visual, and kinesthetic manner. This simply means the information has passed to your brain through many channels of your nervous system: your ears, eyes, and hands.

And by using these methods, you will always have a “plan of attack” when you enter a presentation. You will be more able to confidently sift through the information given to you, writing it down in a way that will be useful for study or reference at a later time. This leads to a better understanding of the information given which ultimately results in successful learning!

Building Note-taking Skills, Part III

In the previous two posts on this topic, I covered the importance of taking good notes, whether it is during a college lecture, a business workshop, or a church sermon. Quite simply, note-taking is a great way to stay focused on the information that is presented, and it results in a concise set of information that can easily be referred to later.

During Part I, located HERE, I went over some of the reasons WHY it is important to teach these skills to students. Then I touched on what is a good age to start and where you can find opportunities to practice. In Part II, HERE, I covered how to listen for signal words so you will be clued in on WHAT to write.

Well, in this post we will be going over how to organize your notes as you write them. After all, if your notes are a jumbled, unorganized mess, they won’t be very helpful to read later on, will they?

You see, when you approach a lecture session, you need to take notes so you don’t have to go back to rewrite or decipher them. They need to be written in a logical organized way. One way to do this is to create a flow chart. Flow charts are especially good for topics that are small in scope. You place the main idea at the top of the page and use arrows to point from it to the major subtopics. Then you can use more arrows from the major subtopics to the smaller points, using examples with them. Like this:

You will find that flow charts will probably not work for most lecture intensive situations, however. In these cases you will most likely use an outline form, writing the main topic on the left of the page with maybe a little general information about it. It will be given the Roman numeral I. Then as major points are introduced, they are given capital letters (A,B,C, etc.), followed by examples for those points which are designated with Arabic numerals (1,2,3, etc.). Then if there are any sub-points, they are listed with lower case letters (a,b,c, etc.). Finally any supporting information for those sub-points will be designated with lower case Roman numerals (i, ii, iii, iv, etc.). It will look something like this:

Use the margin of your paper to highlight major points with bullets or asterisks. When you hear a new idea introduced, add a new number and write that main idea. Then reverse indent the rest of the text as you write the information that goes with the new topic. Reverse indenting helps to visually separate your information on the paper.

When you write your notes, you should not be writing in complete sentences. I know. Most students are trained to never do this. But you simply cannot write as quickly as a person speaks. So learning how to abbreviate words and shorten sentences will help. Additionally, in the next lesson, I will give you some helps with special “note-hand” techniques to speed up your writing.

The only time you should be writing word-for-word is if you are given a vocabulary definition. Make sure you underline the vocabulary word so it is easy to spot within your notes.

Also, with each new major point, skip a line. This adds a visual break within your notes so you can more easily see the flow of the information.

As I mentioned in the last post, in order to help you identify when a new point is being introduced, listen for signal words. Because time is often limited during a workshop or class, whenever a lecturer pauses to write something on the board, make sure you write that down as well. Copy down any diagrams or sketches, too. Often it is easier to explain a concept this way.

Sometimes a lecturer will pause for a minute or two. This most likely means that the information he just talked about was so important that he is giving you time to write it down. Make sure you do!

If you miss a point, leave a space in your notes to fill it in later. Don’t try to look at your neighbor’s notes during the lecture because you may miss more. Ask someone after the lecture if you can fill in what you missed.

Do your best to write as neatly as possible, because this will make your notes easier to use later.

Finally, if you hear a technical term that you are unsure how to spell, write it down phonetically (just sound it out). You can look up the proper spelling or ask someone later. Circle the unknown word so you will remember to come back to it.

Now, why isn’t all this information written in a “Step 1,” “Step 2” format? Well, speakers have various lecture styles. Some write information on a board while others tell lots of stories in between giving out specific details. Some are flamboyant while others are, well, less-than-flamboyant. It takes time to figure out how to “read” the speaker’s cues. Add to that fact that students each have their own note-taking techniques that will best fit their learning and writing style and be intuitive for them when referring back to their notes.

No one way is right or wrong. But with intentional preparation and practice, you will be able to figure out the best way to write legible and organized notes so they can later be uniquely used by you for later study.

Taking good notes offers many benefits to students, including helping them maintain concentration in class and actively involving them in a lecture. It also helps them to better take in information using several senses as they are listening, writing, and looking at their notes.

In the next post, I will cover special tricks and helps to write more quickly, using abbreviations and shortened note-hand techniques! Click HEREfor Part IV!

Encouraging Sibling Relationships

Do you sometimes feel like you need to wear a referee shirt during the day, just to keep the peace between your children? Does it seem like a constant challenge to deal with bickering and to teach sharing? I know that there were days I felt this way. My heart would be hurting as I envisioned my children fighting each other as adults. Oh, how I wanted them to grow up to be friends, loving each other.

Well, this past weekend, I had the privilege to speak at Books and Beyond, a local homeschooling mid-year conference. It was a special time of meeting with and encouraging families in their homeschooling journey as well as within their households. One of my workshops was a new one: “How To Make a Unit Study Out of (practically) Anything.” This was a hands-on presentation, where, after going over unit study structure, resources, and record-keeping, we actually CREATED two units on random topics people came up with. And by “random,” I mean really random! One theme we created was an entire unit on Light Bulbs, complete with studying light speed, Thomas Edison, and late 1800s history. Such fun!

Additionally, my husband, Dave, and I taught a workshop on strengthening your marriage, which was also a blessing to share!

But perhaps the most interesting experience I had this weekend was sharing on a panel “How to Build Sibling Friendships.” Myself, and two amazing ladies, Cheryl Bastian and Connie Albers, each shared several intentional strategies we used to encourage our children in building their relationships with one another.

One of the things my family focused on was building a family identity. We did this by encouraging our kids to see the heritage they shared. They were all part of a family that came before them and are a part of a future family. That means when one of us does something, it reflects on the rest of us. Therefore, bad behavior, unkind words, and selfishness reflect negatively on all of us. Conversely, sharing, concern for each other, and kind words reflect positively.

We wanted them to understand that “being a Seligson” meant something. They were all united in that. So, when they were struggling to get along, we would say to them, “Is that how a Seligson should behave? You all are Seligsons. You are in the same family, and Seligsons keep their word. Seligsons share.”

We would remind them of Proverbs 22:1, “A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.” We have a responsibility to each other as a representative of this family.

And this idea ultimately translates to being in the body of Christ. Once they became believers they were a part of the larger body of Christ. Thus as Christians, their behavior reflected on others. We are united together in a body.

You know, when you meet someone and you discover that you are both Christians, you instantly have a connection you did not have before. You can begin to talk together immediately about deeper things besides the weather and the news. You are both children of God.

And my children are Seligson children. Your children are [Your Name] children. They carry a heritage and a responsibility to each other.

Sometimes, out of exhaustion and frustration, I would say to my kids, “When Dad and I die, you are all you will have! You will need each other!”

My heart ached to see them grow close together. But it isn’t something that happens instantly or easily. It takes continual and intentional encouragement to help them learn to be selfless and loving to each other.

We taught them to serve one another to build those bonds as well. As I would be homeschooling the kids each day, part of their time included the older ones playing with the younger ones while I worked with the middle ones. If you have ever served someone else, you begin to create a bond with them. Taking a meal to a family who is going through a difficult time, endears our hearts to them. We think of them as we are working on that meal, and we create a closer connection with them, right?

Service to one another builds bonds. So we encouraged that idea in our household. Yes, there was occasional complaint, and sometimes I had to step in to ensure that the service was done with a right heart, but overall it helped them to give of themselves to each other.

Sharing rooms and toys also helps them to work these things out, too. Of course, it would be easier to buy each of them their own duplicate toy every time, but that causes them to play apart and identify things as theirs and NOT their siblings’. Yes, they did have some toys that were their own, and we gave them space to have as their own, but it was definitely not exclusive.

Homeschooling our children also created a wonderful opportunity to build those sibling bonds. Learning together gave them common memories that they share today. If they are in a school environment, for example, and take a trip to the zoo where they see an elephant give birth – then they share those memories with their classmates who they may see for a few years until everyone goes off to different schools.

But if you take your kids to the zoo for a field trip and see the elephant give birth, you better believe that they will talk about that experience together for years.

The greater time they are spending together will give them more mutual experiences (good and bad) that will bring them together. They will grow up and think back to that “fun” day when Mom was driving the van and took a turn too sharply, popping the back tire, and it was raining, and this was before cell phones, and we all had to pile into a creepy store with a creepy person who kept staring at us while Mom was crying continually as she used his phone and had to wait for help.

Fun times.

Well, at least fun for them. They laugh together and cry together and grow closer and closer as they share LIFE together. It isn’t immediate. It isn’t automatic. It definitely involves lots of prayer and intentional effort. But it happens.

And it is such a joy to this mama’s heart when she sees her now adult children go out to lunch together, ask each other for help when they are car shopping, and PURPOSELY interact with each other.

Take time to be intentional in bringing your children together. Don’t get discouraged when they are bickering. They are learning how to live with another person who has a different personality and different strengths. This is a good thing. It takes some energy and effort to work out. But it is definitely worth it!

Building Note-taking Skills, Part II

If you read my last post HERE, you know that I believe it is important for students to have good note-taking skills as they enter high school, college, and career. And there are some simple ways to build these skills.

Previously, I talked about how it is important for students to get proficient in summarizing material. This builds their ability to take a large amount of information and distill it down to the major points. After all, that is pretty much what note-taking is, isn’t it?

Taking notes does not mean that the student writes down EVERYTHING that is said in the way a court reporter does. That is not note-taking. In fact, unless you are professionally trained in shorthand or other abbreviation constructs, then you will not be ABLE to write as fast as a person can speak. Instead, you are expected to take good notes, sifting through the sentences coming out of the lecturer’s mouth and determining what is significant and what is not.

Why is this so important? Well, one reason is that taking notes presents you with two opportunities to learn the information presented. One opportunity is during class while you are taking the notes and the other is when you review the notes during study times. Another reason to take notes is that when you write notes in an organized manner, you are better able to see the overall organization of the information presented, and this will help you to identify the central ideas given and the overall flow of thinking.

Additionally, when you write information as well as listen to it, you are more likely to remember the material better. This is actually a proven fact: when students record information to study, they will more easily remember it later and will do better on exams.

Finally, taking notes helps you to maintain your concentration in class. Less daydreaming will occur if you are actively involved in the lecture by note-taking. This is especially helpful if you have one of those “less than interesting” professors.

There are many more benefits to taking notes, but let’s get into some practical helps!

Let’s say you are sitting down to listen to a lecture or a presentation. How do you know what to write down? Well, there is not one easy answer to this because there are innumerable ways that people present information. Often, a lecturer will use a Power Point presentation that includes an outline from which he or she will speak. Well, if that happens, you are fortunate, because you can just write down the outline headings as each one is addressed. Then you can fill in extra information in each section as it is presented.

But what if there is no outline? Or what if there are just one or two points given? In that case, you need to begin to listen for signal words. You see, instructors don’t do a song and dance when an important idea is given. But often they give you verbal helps to clue you in to what they are doing. For example, they may introduce new information using signal words, just like I did in this sentence. The words, “for example,” can clue you in to an important point or explanation of a topic.

Here are some specific verbal signal words:

“An important point to remember is…”

“You need to know that…”

“The main idea here is…”

“There are 4 reasons why…” (and here they come, get ready to write numbers 1-4!)

“This will be on the test.” (I know this is an obvious one, but I can’t tell you how many students would just stare at me when I would say this.)

A new idea is coming if you hear:

“First,” “Second,” or “Third”

“On the other hand…”

“Similarly” or “In contrast”

“Also” or “Furthermore”

Sometimes a lecturer will have a louder voice when moving to a new topic. This means that if you are writing notes in outline form, you may be adding another point. Another way to signal a new topic is with a pause. This often means that the lecturer has completed a thought or idea and is getting ready to go on to another one.

Now a lecturer may also give you a clue that a specific point is important by repeating it. Remember…in a lecture or presentation, time is often limited. So if you hear a point repeated, you can be pretty sure that it is important. Write that point down!

Also, if a lecturer takes time to turn around and write something on the board, you should be writing it as well. Any idea that is written on a board or put on a Power Point slide is likely to be important.

Finally, you can identify that a summary is coming if you hear words such as: therefore, in conclusion, as a result, in summary, or finally (see what I just did there?).

Once a student has been alerted to and on the lookout for word signals, their ability to take notes will greatly improve. They will be identifying the verbal clues given by the lecturer to help them follow along with the organized structure of the lecture, whether they are given an outline or not.

In the next post, I will go over how to organize your notes as you write them, and then we’ll go over specific “note-hand” that helps students to write or type lots of information more quickly.

I have actually put all this material into a small note-taking booklet that includes much, much more information, but at present it is not available. As I go through this blog series, if there is much interest, I will likely make it available as a very inexpensive download. I would appreciate any feedback on this!

Have an extraordinary day!

~Sherri

Click HEREfor Part III!

Building Note-taking Skills for Homeschoolers, Part I

During my years as a homeschooling mom, I have had the opportunity to not only teach my own children but also other homeschoolers in co-op type classes. Doing this has been such a pleasure, but it has also given me some interesting insights to the strengths of homeschooling as well as some weaknesses. Now don’t get me wrong. I believe that homeschooling is one of the best educational options for your children. My husband and I have homeschooled all of our children from K-12 and are so grateful we did. But the nature of home education creates some interesting situations that all homeschooling families need to be aware of so that they can best prepare their children for college or career situations.

One of the most interesting things I noticed about the students who came to my classes is during our discussion time, when I would give a hint that a specific piece of information would be on the test or when I would write out a chart on the board, I noticed many of my students would just sit there and watch me.

Why weren’t they writing this down? I made sure to stress that it was an important point, and I’m using valuable class time to turn around and write it on the board for them. Why were they just sitting there?

Well, after encouraging them to copy things down as I said them, I began to realize that most homeschoolers had very little opportunities to take notes. Therefore, their note-taking skills were often lacking.

Now why is this important? Well, whether a student is college directed or not, there are many other situations where it is helpful to be able to take good notes. In nearly every career, there are circumstances where recording information is critical, such as in meetings, seminars, and presentations. There is the obvious need for these skills during a college lecture, but it is also helpful for how-to workshops or even church sermons – any situation where you need to weed through information given and write down the important points.

After all, you cannot write down every word that is spoken. Note-taking allows you to refer back to important presented material for later use, and it is much easier if your notes are clear, concise, and organized.

You see, note-taking is a skill that is learned by doing. In order to take good notes, a student has to process the information by listening to it and then determine what is important. He or she then needs to be able to write those points down while the lecture is still going on. Taking too many notes with too many details makes the student possibly miss other important lecture points because he is too busy recording previous lecture information. Yet, if too few notes are taken, some important information may be missed, and the notes may not be understandable when referred to later.

So note-taking is a learned technique. The note taker has to utilize good listening skills, process lecture information, and then write down notes into an easy-to-use personal format. However, don’t fret if you are intimidated by this. Good note-taking can be learned, and there are easy ways to encourage it.

I want to give you several ideas over the next few weeks so you can help your students gain those skills. I’ll try to link the posts together so you can follow along, too.

WHAT IS THE BEST AGE TO BEGIN?

For this post, let’s first discuss the best age to begin building note-taking skills. Once a student is able to write on his or her own, note-taking can begin. Actually, the process of taking notes can begin even earlier, too. The goal is to get children in the mode of summarizing information given to them. So building reading comprehension is helpful. When a short story is read, ask your children what happened in the story. Have them use the words, “first, next, last” in their summary. This helps them to determine the main points in chronological order.

WHERE CAN THEY TAKE NOTES?

Once your kids are able to write well on their own, you can have them read paragraphs or short stories and write summaries of them. Again, this is good practice for them to take a larger amount of information and boil it down into its most important points.

Now, during lectures or in workshops, most teachers will not be giving information in story form. So students need to transition to quickly identifying the key points of a lecture and then writing them as notes.

This, of course, requires your students to be in some sort of classroom situation. Now, I’m not saying you have to put your children in a class. But you CAN look for opportunities for them to listen to some type of teaching. We had our children take notes during Sunday Sermons. They looked for three or four main points that were given, and then we talked about what they wrote during lunch afterwards.

You can also look for educational videos that coincide with something you are already learning about. These can be videos you find at the local library or they can be online videos that touch on specific topics. I recommend that you preview the online ones, but if you look around, you will likely find short videos on practically any topic you desire.

Once they are used to the idea of summarizing information, then it is time to add more skills to their note-taking arsenal.

Stay tuned for more helpful info in an upcoming post! And feel free to leave questions in the comment section. UPDATE: Part II of the series can be found HERE.

Four things you need to know about exercise, but might be surprised to learn

Yesterday I went to work out after having been on a “hiatus” due to busy travel, a project deadline, and a cold. Well, it wasn’t easy. The easy part was getting OUT of the exercise routine. Why is exercise so hard to work back into my schedule? This happens to me every so often. I get on a regular workout regimen, and then something happens to get me right out of it again. Things like a crazy homeschooling schedule, a busy sports season with the kids, or a sickness that passes from one child to the other, to the other, to Dad, and finally to me. So once the interruption is over, I try to get back to some kind of regular gym attendance, jogging plan, video workout, or something. But it is just so hard.

And do I REALLY need to make it a priority?

I mean, housecleaning and laundry count as exercise, right? Lifting and toting children, along with all their necessities is a good substitute for cardio and arm workouts. At least that’s what I’ve been telling myself all these years.

But I know better. I want to keep this whole exercise thing in the right perspective for good reasons. And I want YOU to have the right perspective, too. I really do. You see, when you understand the reasons behind all this, you will reap the benefits for yourself and your family.

To make it easier (and so that you don’t feel like I am hurling cannon fire at you) I boiled these things down to 4 simple points. Yes you already know most of these, but I am hoping you will be impacted by the WHY behind them.

  1. Regular exercise is an investment.

What? Are you going all financial on us, Sherri? No. I like saving money, but talking budgets and finances?…no…However there IS a financial principle behind this point. You already know that a good money investment will give you more money in the long run. You don’t see the benefit right away, but you do eventually get the benefit, right?

Well, exercise is like that. Regularly moving, getting your heart rate up, and (yes) sweating are all good for you. They build muscle, strengthen your circulatory system, and even help to clean out toxins that build up in your body. Of course, after a day or even a week of extra movement, you may not see that benefit. Maybe after a month, you might notice that when you go up a flight of stairs, you are not breathing as heavily. In the longer term, your balance becomes better, and you may be able to ward off sickness more easily.

  1. You will likely be able to move more easily when you get older.

When I was in my 20s, it was very easy to stay fit. I think that it had to do with the fitness of youth. Our bodies are much more forgiving when we are young, quickly recuperating after a fun day of Frisbee playing or healing quickly when we get a bruise.

For me, it seems like each decade of age affects me. It’s a biological given that we have to work harder to maintain muscle mass. And balance is not as easily maintained. So it is important to keep my core muscles built up. That makes my back feel better, too. Why is it that back pain and motherhood go hand in hand? (Maybe it has something to do with picking up a crying toddler while holding a laundry basket. Have you ever done that?)

  1. You may even lose a bit of weight.

Well, we all know this one. But now I am feeling it. As a person gets older, the body’s metabolism slows down. It takes fewer calories, then, for our body to do all its daily processes. But if you eat the same amount of daily calories as you did when you were younger, then, well… we’re back to another financial analogy. Too much input and not enough output means that you have excess “funds in the bank.”

Working out helps this situation in two ways. Regular exercise actually increases your metabolism. Your body burns more calories so you take care of those excess caloric funds. Secondly, the actual energy expenditure of a workout enables you to not have to worry so much about every calorie you take in.

Here’s the way I look at it: if I work out more, I may lose some weight. Or if I work out more, I get to eat more. And I like eating good food.

  1. You will be modeling the importance of exercise for your children.

This is perhaps the most exciting point. You see, your children learn what a “normal” lifestyle is by watching you. The way your family does things is the only vantage point they have to what life looks like as they grow up. Now, this is a big responsibility, and there are many very important factors (more important than this one) that as parents, we need to consider as we raise our children.

But a lifestyle where you consider the importance of your overall health is a good model for children to follow. When our children were little, we encouraged them to try new athletic activities. Some were organized sports but others were just things we did together. We would go for a jog around the neighborhood together. We had regular park play days. As they entered junior high and high school, we asked them what their physical activity would be for each semester. If they weren’t participating in a sport, we made it a strong suggestion (read here, parental requirement) for them to choose a regular activity where they were moving their body, whether it was jogging, going to our local YMCA for a workout, swimming, or working out along with a video.

This helped to build a pattern in their minds and in their lives that we hope would continue as they became adults. And it works better if Mom and Dad are doing it, too.

I admit that this is an area where I have been less-than-regular. Things always seem to take precedence over exercise in my day. But I continue to try to make it a priority. Over the years, I’ve done regular swimming, Tae Kwon Do, exercise videos, jogging, and gym workouts. I keep having to ask myself, “What will my activity be this semester?”

And it is OK if it changes from year to year. As long as it is one of the things I consider to be important, I will benefit in many ways.

As this new year is under way, think about how you can make this important activity a part of your regular schedule. For your good health and the health of your children!

Preparing Your Students for Success – in High School, College, and Beyond

There is something about the middle of the school year that makes us all take a step back and assess what we are doing. Are we making any progress? Are there things we need to change in our schedule? Are we covering all the academic bases?

 Of course it is important to make sure you are getting the reading, writing and ‘rithmetic in, but you may be surprised to know that there are some key skills and experiences you can include in your students’ education to help them succeed when entering the high school years and beyond. These simple things will help your young adults become godly, able young men and women.

Now, don’t stress out that I’m adding MORE to your schedule. I am here to encourage you to think about some easy and helpful activities you may already be doing or can easily incorporate into your day that will help your students to shine as young adults in high school, college, and the workplace.

1. Build time management skills.

Taking responsibility for their education is a key skill that will help students stand out in college and a career environment. It is important to transition from giving out a few tasks at a time to training them to organize their own day. Help them to discover what method of organization works for them, whether it is checking off a list of tasks or working completely through a weeks’ worth of a subject at a time. By giving them ownership of some of their schedule, they have the opportunity to learn, make mistakes, feel the consequences of mis-managed time, and then make adjustments – all in the safe environment of your home.

Self-management will come with a few bumps along the way, but it WILL come. The goal is for you to be overseer while THEY become managers of their time. As homeschool parent your goal is to basically work yourself out of a “job.”

2. Encourage study skills and note-taking.

Study skills are often related to note-taking skills. Both are more easily learned by experience. Provide your students with lots of opportunities to take notes, whether it is in a co-op class, Sunday Sermon, or even an online instructive video. They can take the presented information and break it down into major points.

Another good skill-builder is to outline the major points of a textbook as it is read. For literature, they can summarize what they read in each chapter in order to more easily go over a story’s plot.

And you can’t go wrong with helping them to build memorization techniques. Whether they are visual, auditory, or tactile learners, encourage them to find out what method best works for them.  

3. Teach test-taking strategies.

I understand. It is not all about the test.

Our goal is for students to LEARN and become life-long learners. Yet, if they are college bound, tests are going to be plentiful. Even students who go directly into a career path out of high school will find that there are often certifications or skill assessment tests to face.

Provide lots of opportunities for your students to see the various test methods that exist. Fill in the blank, multiple choice, and essay tests are all common assessment types. There are lots of test prep courses available to help you with this. Taking a test is much easier if a student knows how to prepare for it and how to approach it. And doing this first from home will help your students build the strategies they need to approach testing situations.

Believe it or not, exposure to good books is a great way to build grammar and vocabulary which helps in standardized exams as well as essays. A combination of individual reading along with family read-alouds (No, they are never too young for those!) enables students to take in excellent English with their eyes AND ears.

A strong vocabulary and understanding of solid grammar rules will help your students to shine in their writing, whether it is a theme paper or an email!

4. Build computer and technological skills.

I know things were different when “we” were in school, but today students need to have time to develop “e-skills.” This will make them better prepared for college and more competitive in the job market. First and foremost, make sure they know how to type. Have them learn Power Point and present some of their lessons to you or to a class in that medium. There are several online tutorials for Power Point, Excel, and Mac versions of these computer skills.

One thing I loved doing with my teens was to encourage them to start a blog. Why you say?

Well, all of my kids had certain things they were passionate about. One in particular liked cars…EVERYTHING about cars: manufacturers, models, concept cars, engine size, speed, etc.

I had him write a short post each week on whatever aspect of cars he wanted. A new safety feature in some models. The difference between truck bodies and car bodies. Whatever “floated his boat.” He was motivated to do it, especially because I scaled back on his other writing to give him time for this. And he learned how to better navigate around a computer, explored blog page design, experimented with good writing format, dealt with editing images, better understood plagiarism issues, and so much more.

Many blogs can be set up for free. By writing about something they love (Legos, cooking, skateboarding, sports, cars, sewing or crafts), students will be building their writing abilities as well as their computer skills.

5. Give them time.

Students today are often overbooked. This can stunt their creativity and time to think deeply. Leisure is an important part of invention, so try not to over schedule your kids. Monitor their time on electronic devices and allow them opportunities to explore, ask questions, hypothesize, test ideas, fail, adjust, and try again. If necessary, reign back their curricula a bit (yes, I just said that!).

More time allows them to volunteer and to be leaders in groups. Have them start a film or book club, a summer art fair or something else they love.

6. Build character.

This may be the most important “skill” of all. Character comes as a result of years of training and modeling. It is a heart change that slowly comes about from day-by-day influence.

Something you are doing with your children right now.

Why is character so important? Well, if you have a student who has learned diligence, for example, he or she will complete whatever given task to their best ability…without procrastinating (Procrastinating? MY child? Never!). Patience helps students endure when things get difficult. They will persevere because they desire to do their best.

How do we teach character? Well, that’s another entire blog post (maybe even a book!), but I CAN tell you that by humbly going about your days, exhibiting your desire to have character in your children and in yourself, you will be giving them the best opportunity to understand its benefits. Of course, demonstrating a relationship with the Lord and being quick to ask forgiveness when we fail in our shortcomings is another GREAT way to help your students own this for themselves!

Now, I’m not sharing these points to provide stress. I’m all about encouragement and inspiration. As homeschoolers, we just sometimes get bogged down in the “academic race” that tends to put undue pressure on our teens. Our job is to continue to inspire in them a love for learning, give them the tools to succeed as adults in the world, and find opportunities to strengthen their character.

Most importantly, we need to remember to ENJOY being with them! You are your children’s best advocate, and you are doing a great job!

On the Twelfth Day of Christmas…

In honor of Epiphany today, I wanted to re-share a post from last year:

In the United States, January 6th is a day that often goes by without much attention. But many places in the world celebrate this day as Three Kings Day or Epiphany. Epiphany is the day when we remember the wise men’s visit to the one they knew to be Messiah. As a matter of fact, when people speak of the twelve days of Christmas, this time does not actually refer to the days leading up to December 25th but rather those days beginning with the celebration of the birth of Jesus up to Epiphany.

There are many reasons to reflect on this day, but you may be surprised to know (or maybe not if you knew me!) that I like to remember this day because of its scientific significance. You see, though we don’t know much about the wise men, we do know that they were men who lived far east of Bethlehem. Additionally, they were not Jews yet they knew about the Messiah who was promised to the Jews. Of course, they had access to the Old Testament Scriptures, likely from the days of the Babylonian captivity of the Jews. And having read those writings, they knew of the prophecies surrounding the Messiah’s birth.

These men were scientists. They knew much about the physical world around them. They studied it and understood that it was ordered and organized. So when they noticed a change in the heavens (which is argued to be either a convergence of planets and stars or a star going nova), they knew right away that it was a unique occurrence and remembered what they had read in the Scriptures.

Often Christmas cards and nativities depict the wise men visiting Jesus on the night of his birth. Yet because they lived so far away, it was more likely that they arrived many months or even a few years afterward. That momentous night when the Savior of the world was born was more likely witnessed by his Jewish parents, some local Jewish folks, and a small band of Jewish shepherds. This was the first record of Jews beholding and recognizing their Messiah. And when the wise scientists came to acknowledge his birth, it was most likely the first record of the Gentiles beholding and recognizing their Messiah as well.

Thanks to the scientific study of some men from long ago, we can see that it is profitable to study our world around us. God has made it clear that his creation is one way for us to learn about him. As we study the amazing intricacies of bacteria to the perfect balance of planetary positions in our solar system, we can utilize these discoveries to better our world. You may already know that the ever-present Velcro© we find on clothing, combat suits, and even on the space shuttle was created by a scientist who studied unique seeds that had stuck to his clothes after a hunting trip. He came up with a design based on what the ultimate Designer had created.

So don’t let January 6th go by without remembering that it marks a significant event, one that involved scientists who saw the heavens declaring the glory of the Lord and who made a significant journey in order to give praise to the One who came.

This is the real ending of the Christmas season when we see that Jesus is truly “a light for revelation to the Gentiles and the glory of your people Israel” (Luke 2:32).

The Holiday Tradition You Are Already (maybe unknowingly) Making

Okay! December is here, and it’s a new Christmas season. Time to plan the upcoming weeks so we can make great memories and have great traditions for our children to remember. Let’s see… First, we have to have a wonderful tree-decorating experience. Let’s make sure we have enough hot chocolate for that. And a favorite Christmas movie. And let’s make sure we have the perfect decorations. Something color coordinated would be nice – red and gold; blue and white; rustic; modern – something that says, “This is our family tradition, and it will always be this way.”

Well, that is how I approached Christmas for the first few years of our marriage. And once the kids came in to the picture, the stress for making the “perfect” traditions increased.

Do you stress over making this time a memorable one? Do you think that you have to have that perfect Pier One wreath or those adorable Target Christmas towels? Are you poring over recipes so that your hot chocolate will rival any Godiva chocolatier?

After all, you want your children to have the best memories of this glorious season. And I know that none of these things should overshadow the true focus of Christmas – that of rejoicing in the birth of the Savior of the World – Jesus stepping down from the heavenlies to become man so that we may have hope.

But in this celebration, we want everything to be perfect. We troll Pinterest looking for cute Christmas crafts and fabulous gift wrapping ideas. We stress, stress, stress amidst the joy, joy, joy.

Well, I had a huge eye-opener a few years ago. I was unpacking the Christmas decorations and began to take out our family stockings. I have a stocking my grandmother knitted for me when I was a young girl. When I married Dave, she lovingly knitted him one that matched mine – a snowman’s face with a top hat. It was the last Christmas stocking she ever made, and I cherish it.

Well, when we had our first child, my grandmother was no longer able to knit. We had a very tight budget so purchasing a beautiful new stocking wasn’t possible.

It was up to me to make one for him. Now, I can’t knit very well, but I am pretty adept at crocheting. I thought, “How hard can it be to just try to copy the existing knitted stockings but use crochet instead?”

Well, it was hard. And though my son’s stocking had a snowman head on it, it was hardly a lovely one like the other two. But that was all we had, so we used it.

Fast forward to two years ago. I am now pulling out the stockings, one by one. Dave’s beautiful one made by Grandma, my older but still beautiful Grandma-made one, then the cringing begins as I pull out each of our four children’s stockings, with their wonky faces and sideways smiles.

I’m not kidding.

I was tired of having to display those embarrassing things. So I said out loud, “I think it is time for us to replace these old, ugly stockings with those beautiful embroidered ones I saw in a catalog.”

You would not believe the sudden uproar that followed.

“No! You can’t do that! Those stockings are our Christmas tradition!”

“Yeah, Mom. It just isn’t Christmas without those stockings!”

What? Those wonky things?

I replied, “But these things don’t even look like the ones that Mimi made. You can’t even see the pipes very well.”

And then the punchline hit. “Pipes? Those are pipes? We thought those were just smiles sticking out of his face.” Yep. These things are even worse in real life, folks.

Well, I can’t begin to tell you how surprised I was to hear that. It sparked a conversation with my high school and college-aged children to find out what traditions they considered to be part of our family Christmas. And I was astonished to learn how many of those traditions were not the ones I planned.

So I unveil an embarrassing part of my Christmas past to encourage you that you don’t have to stress over what the catalogs or movies or commercials are telling you you NEED to have in order to create loving memories within your family.

Just make sure to focus on the important things as you celebrate Christmas, and your children will cling to those things as they embrace BEING with you, REJOICING with you, LOVING with you.

Traditions should not be something we try to force. They gently, slowly come about as you go through your days, showing your children the importance of this Christmas season.

And if you ever stop by to visit us at Christmas, expect to see these six lovely faces greeting you!

Have a blessed Christmastime! 🙂

When All the Children Come Home

It’s nearly Thanksgiving, and this is our year to host the extended family at our house. We’re going to have 30 people, and that is only because not everyone can make it. I really wish that more could be here for the fun!

I know… I am crazy.

But it’s that craziness that warms this Mama’s heart. Having all of our family and friends over to enjoy being together is one of the best things I can think of doing with my time and energies.

Is this going to be the perfect Martha Stewart Thanksgiving?
No.

Will all the table settings match and the special China be out?
No.

Will there be lots of food, lots of noise, lots of mess?
I’m counting on it!

But what is the best thing about this week for me? I have all of my children home.

Of our four children, one is married, and one is almost moved out – he’s hardly ever home between work and other activities. (I know he’s been home because the food in the fridge disappears!)

But this week, our son and daughter-in-law are here. Our other children will be having a break for school soon, and things are slowing down for them. So they are all under our roof this week.

As a mom, I feel like I have all my little chicks in her nest. I know, at least for these few moments, they are safe, happy, and available for me to hug.

You see, as they grow up, your children only have friends who you know, too. Perhaps they are children of your friends or neighbors. You have control over where your children go, who they spend time with, what they do. However, as older teens, they have jobs, go to college, meet people you have never met and don’t know anything about.

It can be a little unsettling for a parent at first. I began to see the benefits of investing lots of time with my children when they were younger: fostering relationships with them, taking interest in what they liked, and coming alongside them in their pursuits. As they entered this new dynamic of young-adulthood, I enjoyed the continued conversations with them. I saw them choose their new friends wisely. I was blessed that they desired to love and serve others as they matured.

But they often do these things “not at home.” They are beginning to fledge out of that metaphorical nest I built in our home. And the not-knowing is sometimes uncomfortable. It certainly brings me to my knees often. After all, God is just as present in their lives in my house as He is when they are on a plane, traveling to another state (or country). So I turn my concern to praying.

That is good. That is what we desire for our children. We expend effort to train them up so they can go out into the world as godly young men and women, ready to do the work God has for them. So our nest becomes emptier and emptier.

Oh how wonderful it is, then, when they are all back in one place all at the same time.

I sometimes sit back and just listen to them all talk and laugh together. Sometimes the conversation moves to things they did as children. Misadventures we had as a family. Shared experiences during a vacation. I take in all that conversation, and it fills me up! It makes my heart glad!

I ponder how God has brought us through so many years of child-training. We have walked through trials together. We have had joys and challenges. And I know that there will likely be more in the years to come. But for right now, in this moment, I am full of praise for what God has done.

I have my children all together today. They are enjoying being together and being with me and Dave. They are striving to serve God in all they do.

As Thanksgiving is celebrated this week, I am holding this verse in my heart:

3 John 1:4 “I have no greater joy than this, to hear of my children walking in the truth.”

If you have young children, I encourage you to continue pressing on toward this goal. It is definitely a long road and a challenging one. But it is the absolute BEST thing you can do with your life. As you and your spouse build up your marriage, you are able to build up your family – and that brings such great joy.

May God enable you to see the blessings He has bestowed on you this Thanksgiving!